i got married to him before 2 years . he was often lying to me and made me to feel as if, i am an idiot. i understood him, but i didnt say about these things to my parents. i left him before one year for my first delivery to my parent's home(its our tradition), even at that times he gave me and my parents a lot of mental tortures. i believed tht he wouldl change if he saw his child. But nothing worked. he didnt even came to see us and spreads wrong news about me all around. now he has filled a restitution of conjugal rights against me. but i dont want to go with him until he accepts his mistakes and come for counseling. but i have the doubt whether it will work or not if i go to court. he is a very good actor and makes all ppl to believe him with his crocodile tears. wht shall i do now?
and very importnt point is , i dont want to divorce him. i want to pay him back wht he did to me. he spoiled my life. iam not in the country which takes remarriage as much easy&evn i dontlike
2006-08-12 08:09:17 · 12 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please wake up
Your husband never loved you. he just used you as a punching bag. and you let him?
remeber, now you have the added responsibility of your child. take a wise decision, and bring your parents in on this too. Do you want to stay with a husband who doesn't give a damn about you, or can you support your child on your own. if u r qualified, get a job. it'll make you fianncially independent.
Also, what's the use of not taking a divorce? Understand this: life is unfair. that doesn't mean you stay in one place. move on. get an alimony, and start life afresh.
be careful about what you do. he could kill you if he's a maniac.
Finally, remember that God is always with you.
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-12 08:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by sushobhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your entire set of circumstances, but your husband sounds like a terrible person. I know what you mean when you talk about men crying crocodile tears, so that they can get people to feel sorry for them.
If you don't divorce him, you will still be his wife. However, if he is like most men, he will get tired of waiting for you to come back to him, and then he will find some other woman he may want to marry. If that happens and he really wants to marry his new woman, you can punish him by not allowing him to have the divorce from you, until he gives you what you want.
All you need to do is figure out what you want, and then be patient until he is tired of waiting.
Good Luck~*
2006-08-12 08:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fine! Stay together and keep eachother misrable. That will teach both of you. If you do not want to leave him and he is abusive then you have some serious fear of being alone issues. The best way you can make him ppay is by leaving him and living a happy life.
2006-08-12 08:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will under no circumstances admit to his blunders a lot less settle for them. what number of human beings might want to inform you to get out of this courting previously you listen? I understand thoroughly how a lot you want to pay him back. to attain this takes an huge volume of staying power because you ought to have ideal timing for it to coach out proper. contained in the mean time commence rebuilding your existence. He has ruined the previous in spite of the undeniable fact that the destiny is now on your fingers. decide on what you want for some thing of your existence and commence. Verbal abusers hate to work out their victims doing extra effective than them. showing him that you're functional and particular of your self ought to correctly be between the great paybacks you ought to offer him.
2016-11-29 23:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay the first thing you need to do is talk to a counselor for your self so that you can be able to deal wit your own issues .Then and only then will you be able to find the answers that you seek from within.and when you get tried of being sick and tried believe in prayer it does work.
2006-08-12 08:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by she devil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like a wonderful life to me. You want to stay married to him? I understand that there are cultural differences involved, but how happy can this marriage be if you are wanting to make him suffer? Think about it - is this how you want to spend your life?
2006-08-12 08:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to visit a trauma center because this relationship has traumatized you and I mean seriously. Your no thnking straight right now. YOu need to get your self together so that you can take care of yourself without him.
2006-08-16 02:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant believe u r still with him. i would have divorced him adn take every little bit of his accounts so he would maybe be able to hurt as much as he did to you
wake up before its too late
2006-08-12 08:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey it sounds to me that ur arab muslim. if u r. u earn the custody of ur child if he tries to take him or her away. stayin with him is only gonna make ur life worst he aint worth stayin with. get back at him by divorcin him. if ur not arab just divorce him any ways!!
2006-08-12 08:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him..find someone that will love u for the way r u...adn that will give u a wonderful life....good luck hun...and yea...u do need to get him back...get a lawsuit on him...good luck hun
2006-08-12 08:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie Morgan :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋