2006-08-12 08:00:43 · 17 answers · asked by Ashu 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
true love never fails and if u want the real answer for the first two parts of ur question, u just have to fall in love to know that coz love is sumthing u gotta experience and it cant be expressed in words...
2006-08-12 09:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by teddybear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the problem with your question. Everyone has a different definition of "Love".
Some would say love is some magical force that draws people together like some magical chemistry.
Others would say there are scientific-natural explanations for "pair-bonding" that involves hormonal levels and other body chemistry.
While still others still relate love to sex.
So then, people fall in love for different reasons. It has been my exprience that those that find someone they share interests with, and create a super-close frienship do the best. They become like a partership.
Relationships based on the magical love power, or sex, do the worst.
2006-08-12 09:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by EZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY PEOPLE LOOK FOR LOVE:
"Every one of us in the beginning feels that we lack something, that we are only half a person. And we wander around in this world to look for our other half. We're like a saucepan that hasn't got a lid, and we're always going looking for our lid. That is why we feel we lack the other person. But if we observe carefully, we see that this feeling of lack arises from a wrong perception. We have an inferiority complex, that the true, the good, and the beautiful do not exist in us. That is a very deep complex in every one of us. We have a perception that we are not worthy. No truth, no beauty, no goodness is in us. And there is no way that we can have confidence in ourselves. We don't say these things, but it is what we feel. We feel that we haven't any beauty, goodness and truth."
WHY PEOPLE FAIL IN LOVE:
"The beautiful, the true and the good which we look for is something we look for in a person, and we think that there are few people who have that thing. But we have a wrong perception. Because sometimes the beauty we think is real beauty is not true beauty. The truth is not real truth and we think it's real truth. And the wholesome, we think it is true, but it's not real goodness. So if we are basing on our wrong perception then our love can arise based on that wrong perception. And when we have lived with that person for a period of time, we discover that we have failed. Because that person is not able to symbolize for us the beautiful, good, and true that we were looking for and we say that person has deceived us, and we suffer. And then we go and look for a second object."
- Thich Nhat Hanh
2006-08-12 14:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by advice from the heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biologically speaking, people fall in love because of a sudden raise in some hormones to make the person reproduce.
Some people fail in love because something else is more important at the moment.
2006-08-12 08:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by John 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are actually a spirit, a being of light and love, living in a
material existence. Love comes naturally to us.
Yet, the spirit is at war with the flesh. And to quickly, it breaks
down to the material level. How good someone looks. How much they have. How good they are in bed. Even how much bull they can talk.
But all that looking, feeling, and sounding good, isn't always that
good. Basically, we need to look deeper. For love to last, we
need to have compatibility. Same likes and interests. Everybody
likes doing the Wild Thing! But if we don't have anything to talk about when we're through. We end up talking about each other.
2006-08-12 08:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tegghiaio Aldobrandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ppl love and they like being loved..Thats human nature.. They fall in love to commit themselves to the other person...When u are in love u should be able to adjust to the negative points of the other person and feel that each morning for the next 60 yrs u should wake up with this person beside u..Ppl fail in love because they dont give themselves wholly and fully to the other person...They dont commit themselves..
2006-08-12 22:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by savi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a built in need to love and be loved...this is normal.
The reason most people who fail at love is that the fall in love with their concept of love...which is usually not the reality before them. In example a person who has just had great sex with their partner confusing the physicality of sex, which is usually great, thinking this is "TRUE" love when their partner only really wanted to get their cookies off with them. Part of true love is physical yes, But "True" love is really the "Spiritual" bonding of characters and their emotional needs.
2006-08-12 08:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that ppl fail in love because they are loving selfishly. love is not just some fluffly feeling, it is also a committment. when you fall in love, you must learn to be selfless, think of the other persons needs, and maintain good communication. if two people approach love as "what can the other person do for me?", it will fail, because neither person is thinking of the other.
whey do people love? because it's a God-given gift and it's natural.
2006-08-12 13:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People love because they choose to. People fall in love because they've got hormones that are somewhat difficult to control. People fail in love because they're human, and not perfect. God Bless you.
2006-08-12 08:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is our natural state.That is our natural state.
we need not fail in love.we need to rise in love.
actually what we call falling in love is the want of our mind.We wish to possess,own someone.Now this some one has also a right to choose,that choice may or may not be you;also this choice may change over time.No one likes to be owned,not evn you.The problems arise out of thsi and we failin this kind of love.
true love is about giving,no expectations;like a flower which gives smell without bothering who is receiving it or if any is receiving it
...not worried about time place etc.If we love.we give and if we give without expextations we never fail.
this love is the real u
2006-08-12 08:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋