Pls don't feel bad that I've got a relationship with a guy and I too am a guy its like a deep love and a sexual relationship with him, he was alright with me until last week but now he is refusing to have sex with me, I haven't had any relationship with anybody apart from him and I've spoken to him a lot now he is not listening to me pls suggest me a way or a thing where he should come back to me, its not that he doesn't likes me, he loves me a lot but due to some reasons he is denying my love, so pls pls I beg everybody to give me ideas to speak to him, I can't leave without him now cause he is gone deep in to my heart.
2006-08-12 07:43:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Pls don't feel bad that I've got a relationship with a guy and I too am a guy its like a deep love and a sexual relationship with him, he was alright with me until last week but now he is refusing to have sex with me, I haven't had any relationship with anybody apart from him and I've spoken to him a lot now he is not listening to me pls suggest me a way or a thing where he should come back to me, its not that he doesn't likes me, he loves me a lot but due to some reasons he is denying my love, so pls pls I beg everybody to give me ideas to speak to him, I can't leave without him now cause he is gone deep in to my heart.
Pls give me as many as good answers and points you can where I can speak to him.
2006-08-12 07:50:40 · update #1
if you love him you'll let him go.....
let him be happy....
sacrifice your happiness for him...
maybe he have found someone else that's why he had change the way your relationship goes...
just talk to him calmly and ask him if he have someone else...
then... make him choice between you and someone else...
then if he had choicen someone else... just let him go...
if his gonna be happy with that... so that he'll how much you really love him...
2006-08-17 16:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by nakitamaganda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... try this....step back.... don't interpret his refusing to have sex with you as rejection. Respect his space and his identity. Take a deep breath settle yourself and try with all your heart to go things for yourself... Remember befor you got together you took care of yourself.
It is a spiritual thing that happens if you fall to deep and they don't they will interpret everything negatively and then you push the very thing that you want away.
Go and spend time with other friends... go visit others... have a laugh... enjoy telling others about your relationship ... then call happily just to see how they are. Be there friend...it is not easy...it takes maturity you can do it....
2006-08-17 18:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by lourdess777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be straight forward with him hun, ask him what is going on? You won't know until you ask! I understand that you love him, but, if he can't even talk to you, i kind of doubt his love for you! The relationship won't go very much further if it continues like this, you two are obviously having communication problems, and relationships don't work if there is no communication! You have to get the strength, to talk to him, call him out on it, and if that doesn't work, get out of the relationshipl, before you get hurt any more than you already are! Good luck love! And be strong, take care of yourself!
2006-08-12 08:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gay people are against God, that's why! ....Just kidding.
But I'm sorry you're going through that. Maybe he's just unsure about commitment. How does he ignore you? Does he blow you off when you try talking about how you're growing apart, or is it like he won't return your phone calls. It can be that something outside your relationship is bothering him. Just talk normally to him, go a bit slower in the relationship. About the sex thing, try a few romantic tricks, like sending him flowers or cooking a candle lit dinner for him.
2006-08-12 07:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the most vital things in a relationship is communication with out it we don't have much People need to talk with each other and let out their feeling good or not so good. There is a reason for his behavior and you need to get him to tell you his problem before you can do anything about it. So don't give up just keep trying to get something out of him to help you understand what's going on.
2006-08-12 07:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Linda R 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is he bi? Is he gay? Is he ultra religious? Is he straight and just horny?
I take it you are quite young. My first lover was with me for several years when we were teenagers, but was nearly all straight. He was bi, but barely, he loved me a lot though. I also had straight friends ask me to suck their d*cks alot during my teen years -- and I did with ones I was sure it would help and not hurt -- and they of course were straight, so they might come to me for several months and then not for months and then be back -- depending on what else was going on in their lives.
Don't be afraid. There are other men and you will have other boyfriends if this does not work out.
*hug*
Love yourself, love others, and know its gonna be ok. If you need to talk email me.
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
http://www.rebuff.org
2006-08-12 08:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Analyze everything you have said, done or not said in the past week and apologize, apologize, apologize. If possible, get him in a long phone conversation and tell him what you just told us. If you ask him, maybe he can tell you. for your sake I hope it is a technicality that can be cured by a smile and a long slow kiss. If not then, feel free to talk to me and go to my 360 page. I LOVE desi guys LOL.
2006-08-12 09:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings changed his mind it seems, One thing for sure don't push to hard you could loose him forever but with that said poke around (No Pun Intended) and see what's going on in his mind... Good luck.
Rememeber if for some reason he is backing off there's always someone else out there for you..
2006-08-12 09:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Super 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you tell us not to feel bad because you have a relationship with a man. You are on a gay site. Why would we feel bad.
Talk to him. If something is bothering him, he needs to confide in you. When there's no communication - there's no relationship. Period.
2006-08-16 19:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the direct approach & ask him. it may be that he have conflicting feelings about his sexuality & need time to sort things out.
tell him how u feel then give him some space. ( it'll be hard but hang in there). He'll come to u in time
wishing u the best
2006-08-12 08:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my last girlfriend. SOunds like he either already has someone or has your replacement picked out. I know it hurts. They can be unfeeling bastards. It's going to take me years to get over her, I know it! Why don't you corner him and demand an answer? The best of luck to you. I hope it turns out better for you than it did for me.
2006-08-19 17:10:09 · answer #11 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋