2006-08-12 07:39:54 · 16 answers · asked by trina 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No no no, I want him to ask me first, not my parents. It is definately not up to them who I marry.
2006-08-12 07:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by liz n 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most parents would be impressed if a guy did that, so "permission" or not - it just shows he cares enough about you to want your parents to be happy with him. As others have said, some families could care less - but the ones who do, the guy talking to your parents about your plans just shows respect for you and for them. It can't hurt, and it might make all the difference in their opinion of the guy. Marriage is hard enough. If you can start out with a positive - go for it!
2006-08-12 15:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never.
Asking parents or more: asking my father would mean that my father has control over my life and my future.
This "tradition" comes from times, when the parents would decide on who the daughter should marry.
Same goes for the father "giving away" the bride at the altar.
The meaning behind it would be.. "from under the hand of the father to under the hand of the husband"
2006-08-12 14:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by stella maris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is one Guy's perspective:
If I were to go to the father of the woman I wanted to marry and ask for her hand in marriage, and he (her father) was rather non-traditional, I expect that I would get a response like this,"Why aer you asking me, She's the one you want to marry." or something like that. If I were to ask for her hand in marriage from a rather traditional father I believe that that would show a lot of respect for tradition. If I were to refrain from asking her father for her hand in marriage and her father was traditional in that sort of thing I could end up with a mother and father in lw that hated my guts. So, when it come time that I am going to ask a woman to marry me I will go and ask her father for her hand in marriage.
2006-08-12 14:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by nathanael_beal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband and I got engaged we had talked about marriage. I told him I wanted him to ask my dad's permission. I knew my dad would say yes. He loves my husband and always has. But I am my dad's baby girl and it was a sign of respect. My dad would have said yes to probably anyone if he knew it was what I wanted to do. However, it gives him an opening to give advice and counsel to his future son-in-law. One thing he told both of his sons-in-law when they asked permission is that they would need to always have health insurance for his daughters and grandchildren. So, it's a matter of respect above all else.
2006-08-12 15:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by gumby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh my boyfriend says he is going to do that, but I'll be so mad if he does!!! I never needed or wanted my parents permission for anything I've ever done, why would marriage be different?
2006-08-12 14:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, definitely. It show's he's mature enough to run it by your parents first to make sure it's okay with them (not that it would stop me if I really loved the guy). But it makes him look good.
2006-08-12 14:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by miss_gem_01 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!
My husband did that. It was very cool. Unfortunately, my dad gave him the lowdown on my childhood. But it was very romantic. And I had no idea until we actually got engaged so it was special. It was nice to have my folks' blessing. (We probably would have done it without their blessing though, too!)
2006-08-12 15:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by iguessso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if he spoke to me about it first and we are in a relationship. If it's just some psycho stalker that I have rejected for a date who went to my parents I would have him arrested!
2006-08-12 14:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah...that be totally awesome. Kinda like Medieval times... :D
2006-08-12 14:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sammie_SPN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋