Why do people feel the need to berate and annoy others for no reason?

Answer 1

First, there has always been, there is now, and there will always be a reason behind every action. Always. That being said, people are different. Situations are different. Some reasons may be:
1) misguided "concern"...
2) insecurity
3) anger
4) resentment
5) blame shifting
6) "table-turning"
7) denial
8) some would rather focus on the faults of others, avoiding the spot light on their own faults
9) an evil heart
10) simply being a coward on some level
11) control issues
12) fear
13) stupidity
14) ignorance (no. they are not the same thing...)
15) laziness
16) self preservation
17) a warped since of humor
18) lack of self control
19) lack of situational knowledge
20) lack of knowing other chioces
21) self hate turned outward on the world

Enough reasons? I hope so, because it's not just about the reasons...

(Before I go on,) I'd like to tell you, sincerely, that I'm sorry that someone has choosen to hurt you, (or that they hurt someone that you know/care about...).
That said, just know that "their side of the attack" is not so much about "you" (or anyone else that just happened to be in their line of fire...), but, their attacks are about them, and how they are feeling about themselves, their life, their situation... "You" just happen to be their target/ victim/ attempt at a cure for their problem.

Also, I hope you have the honesty to ask yourself why. "Why me? Am I really a victim - or am I just playing one..."
There's a reason people feel safe enough to go up to a Lab puppy & happily play with it, as well as not doing the same w/ a Great White Shark or a Kodiak Bear.
What message do you think you might be sending out to the world that says, "I'm a helpless victume. Feel free to pick on me, abuse me, kick me around, walk on me, hurt my feelings, ignore my feelings..."
And, what can YOU do to create more respect in your own life?
We can't control others, but we can control how we deal - (or don't deal) with them.
Another way NOT to be a victim: turn it into a positive/ a self-learning opportuniy. Just ask yourself, "Why did this/ is this affecting me so much? What part of their "verbal attack" could be ringing true?" (And honestly answer the question.) Example: Say they called you a "home-wrecking, child-stealing, pig that couldn't sing your way out of a wet paper bag." Well, if, (in your own mind) you KNOW that you're NOT a home-wrecker, and you NEVER stole a child in your life, and that you are a "size 4 clean-freak", - but, you can't carry a tune in a bucket, then face your issue. Either take singing lessons, or, accept the fact that you will never be a rock star, an american idol, nor have a leading roll in a Broadway musical. Still, you can sing in the shower, in church, in the car... And, you can acknowledge the fact that you're a good person w/ many other talents; maybe you can write awsome songs, draw amazing dragons, play a moving melody on the piano, organize anything -anytime -anywhere, run a marathan all the way to the finish line, find a cure for MS...
Feel sorry for the other person, (because obviously they've already been on the recieving end -which is probably where they learned the trick so well...) or just pray for them; but either way, forgive them. (We're all only human! we all have bad days, we all make poor decisions from time to time, we all have regrets...) Relax, relate, release... move on with your life.

Answer 2

It's a 'Primeval Scream for Help'...bully's, and other annoying people have a great need to be heard, a great need to be told that they deserve a pat on the back, a great need that someone will recognize their existence and their humanity etc etc. their are deep down very insecure and unsure of their future. They need, need, and keep on needing until someone is willing to give them a receptive and kind ear. Try listening to them more often than fighting them off and you will see what I mean.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Berating is a act of control.

"You won't let me control you so I'm gonna FORCE myself over you by being jealous and petty"

Nobody disrespects someone for no reason. Theres always a reason, mostly stupid reasons.

Answer 5

Their Happiness Monitor is running low so they have to fill it up fast. This kind of behaviour is not easily maintained as it is a power kick, and the power is the wrong kind of power. While the fuel keeps them going, they'll be well-pleased with themselves but once it has run out, they'll stalk for victims again.
Avoid them!

Answer 6

Low self esteem makes them berate others to feel better about themselves.

Doesn't work, but it's all they can think of.

Sad.

Answer 7

Depends on why there being berated. Are they being an idiot or they wearing something ludicrous????

Answer 8

Low self esteem

Answer 9

One minute, i'll ask my brother he's sat right next to me.

lol he is annoying.

Answer 10

Maybe we feel annoyed when we should be amused?