How to deal with married men that cheat?
I have been dating this guy for about 11 months, when we first met he told me that he was divorced with 2 childrens.He is very gentlemen and caring but he never sleep over not a single night. He said a women before married should not let his man sleepover! 10 months pass, I decided to search his status online and found out that everything was a lie, and he is still a married man living with his wife. But I already fall so deeply in love with, what should I do?
I care about him, love and hated him but is so hard to leave him,,,should I tell his wife so that no one else will get hurt like me again? what should I do?
2006-08-12 07:16:29 · 16 answers · asked by Bionicgirlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband cheated on me about 2 years ago. Several people that I used to call friends knew about it, told him he was stupid but no one bothered to clue me in. I wish someone would have. The other woman knew he was married but went after him anyway. Don't be a fool. He is not going to leave his wife for you. Now that you know get out. He is a liar and a cheater and his wife deserves to know the truth. Obviously, HE won't be honest with her so please, end it and YOU tell her.
2006-08-12 07:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 16 1/2 years and I just found out that he has been cheating for over a year. I would have wanted to know before this. So my answer is that you need to think about what he will do to you in the future if by chance he does leave his wife and 2 children. His 2 children and wife will always be there for ever and ever, so think about how you will deal with them in the future and will he cheat on you, he has already lied for 11 months what does that tell you.
You seem to be a good person and this is bothering you, but use your common sense in this. Once a cheater always a cheater !! Remember That
2006-08-12 08:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by konfusedkathy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello 1. I met my wife in a parking lot at a mall after talking to her on a dateline on the phone. Our first date we went to church. 2. She was God's will for my life and i knew she was the right one for me. There was just something about her:) 3.It took us a little over a year of dating and getting to know each other before marrying. 4. We had sex within a few weeks of knowing each other but i wish now that we would have waited until marriage. 5. Tips- This one makes me think. Well lets see her i would say communication and openess and honesty with each other. Unconditional love and forgiveness. Treating each other and loving each other the way that I would want her to treat and to love me. Staying commited no matter what and working through hard and tough times together. Doing fun things together and holding hands alot. We love going out on dates. Having God as the center of the marriage and relationship is a great ideal and help too. Respecting and loving each other no matter what is very important as well. Do not keep hurtful secrets from each other and make important decisions together.
2016-03-26 23:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard to accept, but he used you. He deliberately lied to you to get you to date him. He lied to you about sleeping at your house.
You fell in love with a different man - the man you thought him to be. He is not the loving man of your dreams. He is a liar and a cheat. Keep repeating that to yourself!! He is a liar and a cheat.
Normally I would say to leave the wife out of it. She probably has enough of her own issues, but in this case I think she needs to know. This man spent 11 months living lies with you.
An anonymous note would be my suggestion. Send it in a little card - a sympathy card. Don't go into any details. Just mention that someone has been "dating" her husband, and the husband said they were divorced. That will be enough for her to confront him.
2006-08-12 08:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry that you have been played like this. Break it off with him, if you did tell the wife you are the only one that will get blamed. He will have the right excuses to appease her. He will stay with her and probably do this again with someone else. Stay away from him even if he left her for you the trust would always be a big issue.
2006-08-12 07:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her but chances are if he's lied to you he's also lying to her and he will make it out that you were the one wanting him and just out to break them up for revenge. If he hasn't left her for you by now he won't, he'll deny your love and you will just end up hurt even more. I'd stop the relationship with him now that I found out he was a married man, but not before confronting him with the truth and how you got it. Be honest with him about everything. If you love him as you say, don't compromise yourself or delude yourself into thinking he'll leave her at this stage after 11 months or by seeing him any longer because all your doing is being with another woman's husband.
People out there refer to relationships with another's spouse or boyfriend or significant other as "STEALING". Folks!!! Wake up, you don't steal people...(kidnap...against a persons will,yes) but you don't steal another's mate. It takes 2 to tango and if someone is dating, sleeping, or involved in another's relationship it's because your partner is a cheater. I think it stinks that if the person who is seeing your husband/wife knows that their married, it just shows how low they are. As low as the cheater themselves and most likely deserve one another.
2006-08-12 07:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when a man puts you in the predictiment of being the other woman.
I would tell his wife and then give them time to deal with the situation, if she kicks him out then he is yours for the taking, but if he doesn't leave, it's because he didn't want too, and you were merely a toy for the playing.
2006-08-12 07:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating his wife for sure.but more than that he is cheating you too.Find out how many other ladies he cheating, I am sure you are not the only one.You fallen in love with a wrong man.Confront him tell me to get divorce and marry you. He sure will chicken out.Do you have any correspondance with him Tell him you love him and procure some intimate photographs.Blackmail him.He needs to be taught a lesson..
2006-08-12 07:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Tell her. Cheating is scummy, and he's made you a cheat. Dump his butt, and let his wife know he's a snake. She might not have a clue. By the way, you DON'T love him. You loved what you thought he was. He's played you for a fool, and personally, I'd exact the highest price I ciould manage, short of murder, or doing a Bobbit on him.
2006-08-12 09:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough-one, you could try to walk away and hope he's able to keep his family together, I'm concerned about the children here. Have you spoken to him about what you have found out about him? It's a tough-one when he has your heart, keep in mind if he has lied to you about this stuff how much of what he's says can you really believe. Don't under estimate your inner strength. Good-Luck
2006-08-12 07:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋