in 2005 My baby boy was stillborn at 22 1/2 weeks, I'm now 16 weeks and nervous as hell that it will happen again. My doctor told me that it was a "freak of nature" thing that happened. Everything was going well, no infections, diseases or anything. And the baby was completely healthy. I'm trying my best not to think about the worst but it's hard and i'm soooooooooo sacred that it will happen again. ANY ADVICE????
2006-08-12 07:13:12 · 6 answers · asked by noeyzoey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all I want to say I am so sorry for your loss. It is something that not a lot of women understand. I do but my loss was a lot sooner and was considered a mis-carriage. It is still hard and it is not something that you will really ever forget. I have had children since my mis-carriage. I went through the exact same thing during my pregnancy's. I consulted my OBGYN and told him of my fear. He said it was a pretty normal thing after a loss of a pregnancy. He told me to try to focus on my current pregnancy and not stress my self out to much. I Started to take a Yoga class and that really helped me. I began to understand that life happens and the things that happen in life can't always be helped. I found an inner peace and that peace gave me the strength to do what needed to be done. I wanted to let you know that you belong to a sisterhood of women that will always understand you and your fears. I am so proud of you for trying to have another child. This child will be a blessing to you. No matter what ever happens.... be strong, don't be afraid, embrace life. The fear will do more harm then anything else. You will be in my prayers. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-08-12 07:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's totally natura &l normal to worry like that after a loss. TRY to stay + that was rare to lose the other baby @ that stage. CHANCES ARE HIGHLY, in your favor you'll NEVER have that happen again. Once you get past the stage you were in that the loss occured you'll feel a lil better. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks i was so WORRRIED it would happen again! I'm now 20 weeks less worried. I'm sure a stillbirth is so much worse then a early miscarriage. Keep in mind that was not the normal thing that happens. Your doctor would tell you if he felt there was ANY danger. CONGRATS on the new baby.
2006-08-12 14:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Off, I haven't had a loss.. but I've talked with ladies online that have. I know that when you hit 22 weeks your nerves are going to be so crazy. I am so sorry for your loss before, but if they found no reason (like genetics etc) then chances are everything will go just fine this time. It's hard to tell you to relax, you won't.. not until you hold that baby in your arms..but even then you'll have a whole new set of fears. It shows you are a good mom. I hope you are surrounded by lots of support !
2006-08-12 14:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your doctor tested you for clotting disorders, specifically Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome?
Did they every figure out why. Something obviously happened and I wouldn't have called that a fluke. Do you they have you being followed by a perinatologist?
2006-08-12 15:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was pregnat i was always worried about that kind of thing, i think that all new mommys are. i think that you should just relax and see your doctor regularly and everything will be fine. Try not to stress about it to much cause that isnt good for the baby.
Best of luck yo you
2006-08-12 14:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by zach_n_destanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to see your doctor about these concerns
2006-08-12 14:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋