I am a single mother of two kids, found out my daughter, 14, is smoking, I don't know what to do, please help!

Answer 1

I would say do not be harsh to her. Tell her you know she is smoking and that you are disappointed in her choice. Take away a privilege of hers and stick with it strongly, letting her know why. Tell her why smoking is bad, but try not to lecture.

Answer 2

Why? Ask her 'why?' in a concerned fashion.
Tell her that she is still growing...until age 25 a person is still growing and her height will be stunted and will give herself health problems surely...it's a fact. Tell her she can smoke when she's legally able to buy cigarettes if that is her choice to do so, but not while she's living with you and underaged. If she wants to make any adult decisions tell her she can when she moves out after she turns 18. At least, that's what I tell my sons. Oh, yeah, and she should be 'grounded' from talking/hanging with her friends for a month. Don't give in during the grounding or she will think you weak and not take you seriously.

Answer 3

Try just sitting down and talking to her about all of the negative aspects of smoking. Tell her it stinks, makes you look unattractive, is addicting, has horrible health side effects, etc. Don't be angry just talk. I started smoking at a young age and still smoke. I also grew up in a home with only my mom and had a horrible relationship with her when I was younger. I now realize that she was only trying to help me and cant go a day without talking to her. Kids dont realize that their parents really do care for them and want to help them. I hope you can convince her to quit early because it's a horrible habit to have for your entire life. also, try talking to her about how expensive it can be especially if you smoke alot maybe that will make her think twice! good luck!

Answer 4

1. Take her to the hospital to volunteer on a wing with lung cancer patients. Perhaps seeing people talking through a tube in their throat will scare her to stop.

2. Be together as a family: statistically speaking, children who come home to a family, sit down to family dinner, and do evening activities as a family are better students and make better decisions. If your other child is older, use him/her as a role model. Get to know her friends. Are they influencing her?

3. If none of this works, make her smoke one after another until she throws up. This worked for a friend of mine. But it is harsh and should be used after other ideas fail.

Answer 5

She's 14. Find the source in her for wanting to behave in such a way, and get rid of it, and find the source of the cigarettes and get rid of it.

Aparently its the kids she's hanging out with.

You're the parent, parent her for the sake of her best interest. You want a healthy functional adult, not a 20 year old brat who demands to get its way from life or else.

Nip it in the bud now. Smoking is NOT acceptable behavior from a minor.

Answer 6

Its sad to say i'm 14 and i was stupid like that. I use to smoke twice a day just because of my friends smoked and i thought it was cool. I learned the hard way when all my friends decided to ditch me and I had no way of getting cigs so i quit cold turckey it was very hard! So just leave her alone for like a month and if she doesn't stop just tell her she isn't aloud out of the house for awhile. And that should work! Good luck.

Answer 7

Honestly theres really nothing you can do.If you tell her no shes just going to do it behind you bac.Get some information on what the risks are and show her.Tell her how you feel about what shes doing.Nows the time to ask her what else shes been doing cause I know what I was doing at that age and it didnt envolve smoking.Try and be her friend not her enemy but also show her whos boss.Would you rather do it in front of you or behind your bac.Just let her no you know,just keep your cool.

Answer 8

Don't listen to these people, Giving her more smokes will just put her thinking that you think its ok with her to smoke. But its not ok! My daughter smoked one when she was.....12 because she was pressured into it. I got really mad and then i grounded her and got rid of her so called "friends"

Answer 9

dont shout at her cause if u tell her not to do somthink shes gonna wanna do it even more so just sit her down and tell her the risks of smoking and if she is willing to take the chance of dieing then let her carry on but u know u tried to stop her from doing it it will be her choice let her decide

Answer 10

Well shes 14 so she most likly dont like them. Her friends probably smoke so she wants to cool. If you smoke you cant win, but if you dont you have a fighting chance