My "best friend" and I had a falling out back in February. Mainly because some other crazy girl pumped my friend full of all kinds of crap that was never said. I have tried to contact her, I've called and left her emails. She has emailed me back, briefly but won't take my calls. She recently found out that I am three months pregnant, and emailed me saying that she wanted to be there when the baby's born. She claims she "deserves that much". Yet she still won't take my calls. I'm confused!! How am I supposed to have some girl who won't speak to me, there when my child is born. My husband says shes just crazy and I should just ignore her crazy request. But I miss my friend, no matter how nuts she is. I mean for god sakes she stood up in our wedding and her son, was like my own. She won't even let me see her son, even though I've begged and pleaded with her. Please give me some advice I really don't know what to do.
2006-08-12 06:36:59 · 16 answers · asked by **hope/faith**1744 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she won't even take your calls then she doesn't deserve anything. You don't need her there to ruin one of the best days of your life if she going to continue acting like this. If she won't even let you see her son, then why should you let her be there for the birth of your child. You have gone out of your way to try to reconcile the situation and if she doesn't want to meet you half way then she isn't worth the trouble and you are better off without her. You deserve someone who will act like an adult and be a better friend to you especially during such a special time during your life. Congratulations on the pregnancy and Good Luck in the future.
2006-08-12 06:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds a little off. I don't mean that in a hurtful way but how does she think she deserves to be present at your babies birth and yet refuses to answer your calls? This sounds a little strange. I think she still may be holding on to some of the gossip that was said to her and is probably still angry or hurt about it. The only way something is resolved is face to face and the person that started this mess should be confronted as well. If you two cannot come to a happy medium, then I cant imagine remaining friends with her on her terms. Sometimes things happen for a reason and unfortunately, you may have to end your relationship. Good luck and best wishes
2006-08-12 06:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike the rest I believe that you have tried to be friend her and she chooses not to except that. There for the next move would be from her. If all she is wanting is to get what she wants as in being there when your baby is born I myself find that a bit selfish on her part regardless if she was at the wedding or not and she is your best friend wouldn't you think that your best friend would want to have listened to you in the beginning when all the drama started? Since she did not and it seems that she won't discuss it now why would you think that it is your responsibility to keep trying to save a friendship that obviously she's not done throwing a fit over. Let her come to you, if she doesn't then you really have lost nothing because then you would know where she stands on your friendship.
2006-08-12 06:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by star110772000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some advice you want? Think about how you select and keep friends. Someone who believed some "crap" about you, won't let you explain, wants to be there for you but disappears, and leaves you confused is your friend? You need new friends. Sorry but YOU can't fix HER. Can't be done no way, no how, never. I'd tell her how her words and acts confuse you and see if she'll straighten up and fly right. She may not be able to do so. C'est la guerre!
2006-08-12 06:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your friend is not attending calls. So, try meeting her and talking to her directly.I think that's the best way you can clear your misunderstanding's. As your friend wants to be there at your child's birth. I think she still likes you and misses you. Don't worry if she doesn't anwer ur call may be someone is forcing not to attend or she may not be there.
I think it's best to meet her in personal and say that you miss her and want her back. After all she's your best friend, she will undertand. i am sure she will come back to you.So, good luck.
2006-08-12 06:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, she has issues to deal with. It's her loss...obviously she has no concern with your emotions, other than hurting you, or trying to control you. Move forward, and make new friends...rise above the circumstance. True friends confront rumours and settle issues not make them worse. Accept her rejection with the known fact that you can accept her decision in a respectful manner as her decision not to socialize with you, even though it's painful right now...but you are mature enough to move on and don't need to socialize with someone so close minded. Know that you tried...and let it go. Hope that helps.
2006-08-12 06:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sent her e-mails explaining your situation and how you feel. Try calling with a different number or a restricted number so she doesn't know it's you or just go to her house and talk to her Use your imagination there can be so many other possibilities of getting a hold of her.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped
2006-08-12 06:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Squishy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her there. Having a baby is a private moment between YOU and your HUSBAND not some friend that doesn't really desire a full fledged relationship with you. She sounds like she could be a drain on your relationship between you and your husband with her bi polar mood swings, let her go find some other person to be a drain on, you dont need it, find another couple with similar interests like new baby to share time with.
2006-08-12 06:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by waddabunchabologna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has some major issues and needs help. You should just move on with your life. NO she shouldn't be there when your child is born. Don't let her bring you down. It is hard to just let it go but you need to.
2006-08-12 06:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Alaska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm distinctly helpful I hate 'maximum suitable buddy' because of the fact she treats me like dogs sh!t most of the time and that i attempt so problematic for her. She additionally has replaced lots and now smokes weed, is a whore, and gets inebriated... none of which I do. tell her you do no longer decide directly to be pals anymore. Its for the sake of your sanity and well-being.
2016-09-29 04:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋