im so confused over this, i feel guilty for developing feelings for this way older dr, but it has happened,yes... he is married w/kids and he never talks about his wife. i just see the ring and assume. he is the one who started this whole thing, and continues up until this very day...im starting to get used to the flattering comments, phone calls, and the flirting, i know i know it's wrong but i basically just went to the dr. never guessing that for 5 months straight i would be in this situation. what do you do when you want to tell him how you feel but you know it's ethically and morally wrong?if i know it's wrong, he definatly knows it's wrong so why does he still do it?
2006-08-12 06:33:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he gets caught he will lose his license. And you are an idiot...stay away from the married men.
2006-08-12 06:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's taking advantage of his position of trust and power .. that's the first thing you should be aware of. Maybe he likes that game. You have to find it out as quick as possible, otherwise he's playing with you.
I don't think it's strange that you are flattered by his comments, so you're not wrong in anyway.
You definitely can tell him how you feel ... you're free to do that - he on the other hand is NOT - not because he shouldn't have this kind of relationship with a patient and NOT because he has a wife and children. But that's not an excuse either to keep you waiting. He's enjoying this, you're aren't "really" - so if I was you, I would stand up for my rights !!!
It's better to tell him -- and to take away the doctor-patient relationship. Than see how he reacts. There's nothing to lose. But I would definitely go and see another doctor in the future, if this turns out in a real relationship or if it doesn't.
good luck to you !
2006-08-12 06:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by JS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know what you are doing is wrong, then why are you doing it? If you want people to support your bad judgment then too bad. You should have rebuffed this man, reported him and walked out.
Find yourself another doctor if you are in true need of medical attention. Keep your feelings to yourself and rediscover your dignity. If this gets out you will be destroying his life, yours and his family's. While he might deserve that kind of attention, you and his family do not!
Yes, he started it. It is his fault. He's a jackass. But you have allowed this inappropriate behavior to continue. That is your bad. He is also not the kind of man you would seriously want, once the infatuation wears off. If he would cheat on his wife, he would cheat on you.
If you are so susceptible to flattering comments, you need to ask yourself "Why?"
Stop, while you're ahead and before you get hurt.
2006-08-12 06:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by rhiwedhel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he's a pig so hes at fault and your at fault for acting like you have no control over things. Dont act like he is forcing / seducing you into this and your powerless. If your going to do wrong then do it but be truthful about it. But at the end of the day, remember, what goes around comes around.
2006-08-12 06:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up, slap yourself, and find a new doctor. This dude is problably pulling this line with other younger women besides you, or has in the past. You're settng yourself up for heartache and embarrassement. Move on.
2006-08-12 06:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he doesn't care about his proffesion.
if the state medical board was to find out about this he'd be out of practice. I suggest you tell him its wrong. Now, if he's a widower or something on that line (free to date) and you want a date then find a new Dr.
2006-08-12 06:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know it is wrong then why do you continue on? stop the phone calls and the flirting put yourself in his wife's shoes...
2006-08-12 06:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A married man? That's not cool. Think of his kids, not yourself. He's obviously not thinking of his kids, so maybe you should. Don't ruin their lives for a moment of meaningless sex.
2006-08-12 06:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's a doctor, and should be highly respected, does not mean that he's not a typical male. They're still all horn dogs, and very few of them are faithful.
2006-08-12 06:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell me, Why would you want anything to do with a man who is willing to cheat on his wife? What do you think he would do to you? You don't have much respect for yourself , do you?
2006-08-12 06:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋