Do you think 18 is too young to get pregnant..?

Question

I turn 19 in december and I want to have a baby and I was wondering if anyone could give me advise... I don't know how to talk to anyone I know about it so I am hoping someone here could please give me advise

Answer 1

It depends on you situation in life, I think at 19 there is so much that you can do and experience first as an adult and then later in life as a parent. It also depends on your relationship with the baby's father many women have to parent alone but I think it's easier to have a loving support system in place. I am 34 with my first pregnancy and sometimes I feel really scared about all the upcoming responsibilities and sometime I feel like I just needed one more year to grow up :-) and that is knowing that I have a supportive partner, decent finances and I am excited about the baby but still...I want my mom!

Answer 2

Please read this carefully,and think about what I have to say for awhile.I was 16 when I had my first child, well I turned 16 five days
after she was born,And that was the end of my life as far as youth
and being social ,and financialy it sucked, not alot of career opportunities open for teenagers. I had my second one at 18, my
third one at 21, and my last one at 26. Now I'm 40 years old and
there are so many things that I would have loved to do when I was
young.I could do them now I guess, but I would feel like a big jerk
Somethings should only be done by teenagers, because gravity
does bad things to you!(smile) The stuff I'm telling you may sound trivial but have a life first even if only a couple of years,So
later when you look back you won't wish you had done things
different,or regret all the stuff you didn't do. I know how hard it is
to take advice from someone older at your age, most people end up learning the hardway. I have 2 daughters, both had their first
baby at 18,now almost 5 years later they see what a hard way they made for themselves and they realize the wicked mother
wasn't just trying to spoil their plans. Unless you are pregnant now, why rush it,go have some fun and be your age not mine!
You will have plenty of time to have babies, later! GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

Girl where do I start, I have 4 children and they are a hand full. Let me start by saying I loooovvvveee my children with all my heart and would not give them up for anything.

But they are time consuming. I have not had time by myself in 15 years. They all come first with everything.

Did you see those beautiful shoes at the mall, Well little Johnny needs diapers, milk, clothes, and much more. So those new shoes ( just a nice dream ) Babies need 24~7 attention. No sleeping at night, making bottles, changing diapers (smelly diapers) you have to make the house safe and clean constantly.

Girl I have 2 teens, 1 preteen and an 8 year old. They only get more demanding with age.

Teens need all the most expensive clothes, shoes, and if they play sports they have to have clothes for that sport, equipment, shoes, sport pictures, pay for dinners with the team.

Just think before you act. Children take alot of time, money and wisdom.

My suggestion is to work at a day care, volunteer at a school or any where you can interact with children and experience there needs first hand. This will give you some idea of what to expect, but please know this is not a quick decision ( you can't take it back to the store for a refund, it is a life time commitment )

Answer 4

I think about 23 or whenever you get out of college is the earliest you should have a baby, BUT you should be married when you have a baby, otherwise your baby's father could leave you and the baby would grow up without a Dad. Also, if you have the baby in college, you might not have time for your studies. Babys need 24/7 care, which you can't give to it unless you're out of college, have a good job that will give you maternity leave to take care of the baby and will allow you to bring it to work. Girl, 19 is WAY too young to get pregnant. Finish College first and find a man you want to spend the rest of your life with and have a baby with him.

Answer 5

I don't think anyone has the right to tell you what is right or wrong for you. I can just give you advice according to my own personal experience but in the end you need to make the decision based on your own personal feelings.

I was 22 when I had my first child. I am now 33 and having my 4th. I am thrilled on one hand that I am a young mom. I have the energy and stamina to keep up with all their activities. I am usually one of the younger mom's in my son's class at school. Most woman are waiting longer and longer to have children. On the other hand my husband and I often just sit and talk about how much of our youth that we missed out on. We got pregnant one month after we were married and had our son 1 month before our first anniversary. We didn't have much time together to travel and have time alone. Don't get me wrong. I love my son and my 2 girls and wouldn't trade the time for anything. I'm just saying that parenthood isn't a decison to jump into without much thought and preparation. When you have children your life is no longer your own. It's a real act of unselfishness. And unless you are willing to give up such a big part of your youth, I'd really think it over before making such a big decision.

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself if you are ready to give up hanging out with friends, no clubbing/partying, you need to make sure you have a stable job so you have money to provide for the child, some medical insurance to cover the cost to have a baby because you need prenatal care and the baby needs medical insurance, you need a car if you do not have one, your own place to live if you do not have one already, and a man...someone who you are married to at least. There are a lot of factors that play in this. Babies are not cheap. You need to live your life first and do something for you, like college, get married and then have a baby. You said want a baby, so therefore you really do not need one in your life right now.

Answer 7

yes i think that 18 is to young to have a baby. i am 18 i also turn 19 in december. i just found out that i am two months pregnate. and things are so much more difficult. the whole money issue sucks i really wish i could have waited until i was out of school altogether. graduated collage and had my career lined up. my advice for you is give yourself a good life wait have fun while you still can. you havent even lived yet. you have many years ahead of you dont rush things.

Answer 8

Why do you want to have a baby? Is it just to have someone to love? Think about it this way: as soon as you have a kid your entire life takes a backseat to its welfare. I'd say if you are 18 and already married and have the financial means to care for a child then go for it, but to me it sounds like this is not the case. You don't want to be struggling through life with minimal education, trying to take care of a kid. The child will not get the care, attention, or education it deserves and you will not get to experience any kind of social life. Don't think about yourself here, think about the welfare of the child you want to bring into the world. It shouldn't be about what you want at this point. If you are only having a child because you think it would make you feel good then you are having it for the wrong reason.

Answer 9

BEST advice i can think of is WAIT. I got pregnant at 17 had him at 18. I still lived at home had a small paying job. I missed out on college. I was not married. In fact I did not have a CAR till he was 2!. He's 10.5 now I am married "not to his dad". I do have a home boat cars and a better job NOW. Had i waited he would have had better things and a much more stable mom because I'm so much less stressed NOW. Having him did not destroy my life but, it sure made it less fun less freedom less money and it took long to get things i needed "car" because of him. I'm now nearly 29 20 weeks pregnant this pregnancy is so MUCH better. I know this baby will never go without nor will i!. The best advantage in waiting is you will feel more secure be more prepared and have already had those early 20 years of being YOUNG not tied to responsibilities. WAIT go to college DATE around go out turn 21 go to las Vegas travel be YOURSELF. When you are settled down married own a home you will be ready to have the baby you want and the baby will be HAPPY and grateful you are with his/her father and a mature grown up with her head on before you got pregnant "BETTER 4 ALL INVOLVED". i'VE HAD A CHILD YOUNG then got pregnant much older I KNOW waiting it so much BETTER. Those who say do what you want are right in a way but, i would say DO WHAT'S BEST 4 the child.

Answer 10

I think that you should wait until you are at least 25 - this will give you the opportunity to enjoy your younger life and appreciate your children so much more! A baby is not easy! They are cute and wonderful to be with, but a baby needs a lot of attention. If you have a baby now you will regret not waiting later on, because you will want to do everything you didn't when you were younger. Good luck!