For married people?

Question

if you could totally leave your partner, without any consequences or having to go through a divorce, and start all over again, would you?

Answer 1

Not a chance. I don't think I could possibly be any happier anywhere else.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't. My marriage hasn't always been easy, and even though things are better, I still have weeks where I wonder what I'm doing here, where I just can't seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel. My husband and I so different, which has its upsides and downsides. But I love my husband and I love my kids. And my kids adore their father. They'd be crushed. Period. I'm also a firm believer in Fate. Fate brought me to where I am, and I may not understand it right now, but I'm positive that I will some day. In a more practical sense, I'm also not entirely sure that my therapist wasn't right--that even with another partner, even someone so absolutely perfect for me they fit like a glove (or your soulmate, in the truest sense of that word), that the problems wouldn't still be there.

So yeah, some days that thought is really tempting. But right now, I'm determined to make the most of what I've got. You cant' go around the problems; the only way out is through.

Answer 3

I've only been married 3 1/2 years and so of course, if that opportunity were to possibly be available, I might be tempted and so would he. But that's not the point.
We haven't been married to each other long enough to have really gotten to know each other as well as we should to just throw in the towell like that and start over. We have so many years ahead of us, future children, grandchildren. That's what life is about; having a family.
If I threw all that away for selfishness, well, that would tell you what kind of person I am.
We love each other and part of marriage is dealing with the differences, the weaknesses, the annoying habits, etc., and being loving, compromising, selfless and loyal.
I personally think today that most people don't see their marriage as a sacred union but as a mere "fling" that suited them at the time and that they come and go and don't matter.

Plus, I have two sweet, beautiful daughters that I wouldn't have if I started over again.

It just wouldn't be worth it!

Answer 4

I did...

Too late I found out there is no such thing as "without consequences"...Ours should have had none, no children, we both had money, our own cars, we didn't even have the same friends or lifestyles ( I loved home life and he loved the bars).

I would have lived my life as a separated individual, neither married nor divorced.

I did start over again with a new job, a new town and a new man.

But...you can't run away from your past. It haunts you every step. Little things you don't even consciously think about come at you out of the blue to remind you of what once was. I love fish, my ex hated it especially the smell, I find myself going to places where the seafood is the specialty. The New York Times, our favorite paper, always scattered through out the house, I hated that...now it is in the Den folded on my desk whenever I want it.

Little things will always remind you of your marriage.

It took over 2 years to get the divorce because he refused to live apart and for every time I disappeared he'd find me and make my life miserable. He harrassed my parents, my friends and even my boss. I couldn't bowl on my regular league because he'd come in and sit and make nasty remarks. If I talked to someone he didn't know he'd muscle in and demand to know who they were and why was I talking to them. He blamed me and spread rumors (no one believed him) that I was an adulterer and had boyfriends during the marriage. After 20 years of marriage to this man, who always said when I turned 40 he was going to trade me in on two 20's, who wanted to party 7 nights a week and loved his young girls...I thought he would have no problem with me walking out of the marriage...WRONG!...he may not have wanted me, but he didn't want to lose his comfortable life of me taking care of him either. Yes there will be consequences.

Answer 5

If a Man leaves his wife for another woman, he's an idiot.
If a Man stays with his wife in lieu of another woman he's does well.
If a Woman leaves her husband for another Man. she's an idiot.
If a Woman stays with her husband in lieu of another Man, she does well.

My Moral here to day as I write this is Thatt people have become selfish tha get married and then divorce treating their other like a piece of meat when they are human beings. If you can;t love yourself, how in the world do you expect to love anybody else and divorce is not the answer becasue it just send the dummy to another Woman and vice versa.

Answer 6

God no!!!! I have been married for 10 years and would not trade that for anything in the world. Life is not a game. You are suppose to be with your partner till death do you part.

Answer 7

No way! Been married for 18yrs. alot of ups and downs but thats part of life. When I was sick with cancer and not sure if I would make it ,my husband was there not letting me give up.Everyone goes through rough patches don't give up,marriage is a serious step and these days is taken to lightly.

Answer 8

No way! I've been married to a wonderful woman for the past 27 years (first marriage for the both of us), and believe me, I appreciate what I've got! Besides, at 49, I'm to lazy to date!

Answer 9

I would love to start all over again with him and take what we have learned already, only to make it better the 2nd time around.

Answer 10

Hell yes, I've been lonely for the past year, actually longer but I just realized it last year. I have been 'looking' for a new man for over a year now. I am not rushing it, because I am still technically married. Not in my heart though.

Answer 11

Yes