when ever i go out to have fun i always have to come home to a fight . never do nothing to get myself in trouble. i have no real friends like to be alone so i wnt have to hear nothing about anything i'm going to b 30 and i have 3 kids which i spent all of my time with but when it time for me to enjoy myself i cnt i feel selffish when i enjoy myself ,half of the time i dnt want to live anymore, if it wnt for my kid i would had been gone . i love my kids and i dont want them to hurt for me.i feel so hurt right now and i dnt wan to leave them without there dad but i dnt think he would ever get me afther 10 year togetther u would think he will no me but he will never understand how much of a good women he has and i think it time to go our own ways but it will hurt my kid and i dnt want them to hurt i no wa it is to b without a dad and mit hurt cuz they end up forgetting there kids like my dad did .wa can i do stay with this guy or walk away
2006-08-12 06:17:09 · 7 answers · asked by fumeluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your question is how can I be happy living a crazy life. You can't . It's clear from everything you've described that you aren't happy. The craziness that you're living in is not working for you. It sounds like despite everything you are a good mother. Hold onto that and let the love you have for your kids keep you sane. It sounds like you're majorly depressed and I think the craziness of everything that is going on in your life is just a symptom of underlying deeper issues.
The questions you are asking are really too deep for this type of forum. I suggest you see your doctor. Talk to her/him about everything you've said here so they can determined if you truly are depressed. You need balance and a professional can to help you find that.
In the mean time don't do anything rash. Do not leave your husband and do not try to self-medicate! Neither of these options will make you feel any better. I don't think you in the right frame of mind to make major decisions at this time. Love your kids as hard you can through this rough time because I'm sure they feel the tension in home and that can be very scary for children. Try to put yourself in your husband 's shoes. It can't be easy for him being married to someone who is clearly so unhappy. Try to connect with him because, when you think about it, your really in the same boat. You said you have no real friends and that bothered me, because I consider my husband one of my best friends. When did you guys stop being friends?
You feel he doesn't understand you,. I'm sure he feels you don't get him either. Both of you must be miserable. Try to argue with a purpose. Honestly try to communicate your feeling without aiming to hurt the other person. Things can get better with the right counseling. If you need to vent look up my email address. I don't know you but I can try to be friend if you need one. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-08-12 07:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're trying to be both married and single.
Thus my answer would be for you to first make a choice. Weigh out the pros and cons of married vs single. And do NOT stay married for the sake of the children. You need to WANT to stay in the marriage.....for yourself and your partner.
2006-08-12 13:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please yourself first!! sounds selfish but ..the only way..the kids will see their mom happy and make them happy!! Honey i know how hard it is with 3 kids!! It can be frustrating and depressing at times!! But rewarding!! Make time for u too!! I sure know how hard it is too!! believe me!!to make time for yourself ..and try to get a good friend..across they dont come easy either@@!! I know too!! good luck!!
2006-08-12 13:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away. he sounds like a good guy. just not good for you right now. you need to resolve things within yourself, your kids will be better off without you 2 fighting. its worse when your fighting for the kids.
2006-08-12 13:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.amberj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your kids and go. They probably hate seeing you so unhappy more than you realize and wish you would leave the control freak.
2006-08-12 13:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try English.
2006-08-12 13:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is too long to be answered!!
2006-08-12 13:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by hamodizero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋