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Question

I feel that I am starting to self destruct myself I got out of Job Corp May 30th of this year and I quit smoking while in job corp but now started back I have noticed that it has lowered my self confidence, also I am starting to drink alot and it is starting to disrupt my work I am calling into work alot and that is making me feel very bad about myself. I start college Monday and I don't know if I am going to stick with it if I contiune to do these things to myself. Also there is a voice inside my head, now note I am not crazy but this voice says you are stupiud every time I make a fail at something. I just got out of a mentally abuse and also physically abuse home and my parents which are the the people that have done this to me seems like they want me to fail because they have fail in there life. My mother which is an alcoholic and smokes pot comes over to my apartment and offers me beer and she just seems as if she is wanting me to fail. I really dont know what to do please Help

Answer 1

Find someone to talk to. You need some help to understand the things you can do to move yourself in the right direction. Also, try your best to be around positive people...people who are leading their lives in a way that you'd like to lead yours. You also need to avoid being around your parents as much as you can. That's not cold...that's self-preservation. When someone can potentially cause you harm, it is NOT wrong to stay away from them. You also need to realize that you can do ANYTHING you want to do. When that inner voice starts talking to you, tell it that it's wrong. Also, even if you fail occasionally, that's normal. People learn from their mistakes and move forward.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm not going to be one of those people that say just to see a counselor, but I will say if your parents don't care about you then do everything independently. You will have to work 40 plus hours a week to do it. If you can't find a decent job where you live, then leave to a better economic city where you can make $. ever thought of working in a restaurant or deliver pizzas or something for tips? If you still live with your parents, you need to move out as quickly as possible, quit smoking and no pot and minimize your drinking. Ever though about joining a church or something that's positive? What you need is a fresh slate. After you get settled go to school and major in something where you can get a job after you graduate college. If your parents really don't care, then disown them. I know it sounds bad, but you don't need their problems and they don't sound like good parents!

Answer 3

You've recognized that you have a problem. Now go do something about it other than wallowing in your own self pity (and no, that wasn't meant as a slam). You have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, quit making excuses, reasons and predictions for failure.

If you need professional guidance, seek it. Otherwise, take a deep breath and decide that the barometer of your success is not what other people think of you or try to do to you.

Go to school, get your degree, quit smoking and drinking, remember that integrity is your most valuable asset and quit calling into work. Get your life back on track and do it today. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Answer 4

You know your behavior is destructive so start litle by little to stop doing those things. You did it once and you can do it again. Instead of having your mom come over have friends that support you and your decision to better your life. Surround yourself with positive things and the voice will go away. Maybe you should think about counseling to help you priortize your life and get rid of all these negative feelings. I wish you the best and keep telling yourself that your better than all those negative feelings.

Answer 5

This may sound stupid to you... but one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to excercise. Give it about 10 weeks. Work out/walk/jog, at least four times a week for 10 weeks. I'll bet my last dime that you would not write that pathetic paragraph after 10 weeks.
Hang in there.

Answer 6

Sounds like you need professional help. Sorry.