next door to us.They hate me as well as I hate their ways.The father in law has two wives.And everyone acts like this is OKAY.The father in law wont admitt the other women as his wife and says she is a friend but she has the same last name spends the same amount of time with himand the 1st women (wife knows this) both women have been in the same kitchen cooking.He runs all over town with the women that dosent live with him.Everyone in this town knows her,not my husbands father wife.My husband and his sisters hate this other women but they still let her stay around their mothers house.My husband son thinks Carol is ok.I tell my son no she is a bad person due to the fact they have taught husbands son to hate my son.This is a messed up family.I dont want them living next door.And told husband so and why.But he wants his dad close becz the old fart is sick and theres mold in their house which dosent help his condition.He dosent know that Im thinking of moving when they move in.Someone help
2006-08-12 06:02:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have two children one is his from a prevs and one child is mine.
2006-08-12 10:14:46 · update #1
first of all u r all adults. as much as what he is doing is wrong their is mothing u can do. but if u move out then u will lose the respect of ur husband. so u have a choice to make would u live with the fact that ur family has problems and just accept it or move out and loose ur intimate family for life.
2006-08-12 06:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by in ur face 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my adventure I actually have under no circumstances considered a pair that lived aside because of complications of their marriage come back at the same time and stay luckily ever after. that's glaring you're lonely being so a options out of your spouse and youngsters and having a husband who works any such large type of hours. you should bypass to a wedding ceremony counselor and word if there is a few compromise for this situation. As for him no longer being there to look when you after your surgical operation, did you're making it clean to him that you needed him there? men do not realize diffused tricks so in case you merely did not come out and say it he likely had no theory you needed him there. i recognize what you advise with the help of your husband retreating truly than talking and the way it makes you sense handed over.....my husband does an similar ingredient. that's really a passive aggressive act yet do not attempt to get him to work out it. exceptionally after we went to a wedding ceremony counselor he thoroughly unfolded. I had my doubts he could even talk. i realized any such large type of issues he were feeling and wondering that I under no circumstances knew. i wager a therapist's place of work because the therapist is purpose and each thing is unique is type of a confessional sales area or something. besides I strongly recommend it. no count number how your marriage seems you'll a minimum of have a miles more effective acceptable understanding of one yet another and why you're both the way you're.
2016-11-24 21:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by casalenda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee what an exciting family you married into. NOT!
I guess you need to tell your mate your thoughts and plan.
It'll be interesting (to say the very least) to see what his reaction would be. I hope you have a solid plan. Usually men are so numb when it comes to what their wife is thinking/feeling. They usually never have a clue. Whether it be uncaring or simply dense, I have no idea. In your instance, I'd probably be too verbal, and packed up before now. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide.
2006-08-12 06:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have a mess!! Let your husband know you are planning to move if his parents move next door. Your husband can help his parents without having them under foot. A good suggestion for a place for them to live would be in an assisted living arrangement. Every town has them. Please check into that before your family is destroyed.
2006-08-12 06:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not easy to advise someone to split up just like that.There are many circumstances to think about, like security, finances , medical, etc, but your circumstances sure sound unhealthy and depressing.
If you can make it alone, and things are as you say, and hubby does not care to consider you & the children to be more important than the others...a girl has to do what a girl has to do ?
2006-08-12 10:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Featherman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have told him how you feel.It is possible to be nearby,without being next door. If he wants to run the risk of losing you,then that is his choice.Do what you feel is right.His parents won't always be around.
2006-08-12 06:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I blame you. I wouldn't want my kids around that sort of behavior. I'd be out the door in a hurry!
2006-08-12 06:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like something from the Jerry Springer show. Move out, Move out!!!!
2006-08-12 06:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋