2006-08-12 05:42:20 · 12 answers · asked by amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Life looks way different from an adult point of view. When my kids and I fight, I can sometimes remember what life looked like when I was their age. It's a whole different view. BTW, I usually apologize and explain the difference in view. We work it out.
But it's like we live in different worlds. In reality, it's not that the world has changed, but we have changed so much.
Youth are generally more idealistic (not a bad thing at all!), but less practical. They also tend to not take long-term consequences into account as much. For instance: starting a Roth IRA. Young people want to spend the money (expenses rise to meet income) and think retirement is 50 years away. Their parents understand (hopefully) the power of compounding, but in your favor and against you (as in credit card debt), and realize those 50 years will pass way faster than the teen thinks it will. Not to say you shouldn't have fun; you're only young once and may not be able to travel (or whatever) when you have job, mortgage, family responsibilities. Don't go extreme wither way.
But do listen to your elders; they have wisdom even if they have forgotten the dreams, idealism, and adventure of youth. Try to understand their concerns and work out a compromise. This will develop in you an ability to see others' points of view, negotiate, and compromise. People skills are highly valued in the business world and will generally make your personal life go smoother.
2006-08-12 05:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Maryfrances 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear-heart, it's not that we don't understand you. We understand all too well. A lot of us have tried to forget when we were teens. We made the same mistakes, had the same needs and desires, and most of us got into our fair share of trouble. We also had the same fights with our parents and swore that when WE had kids it would be different. Time and experience changed us bit by bit. We discovered that our parents knew more than we thought. We also found out that we had an overwhelming desire to protect our children from themselves and their inexperience.
There's a lot of evil out there in that big old world and almost all of it is at the hands of other adults. WE KNOW ADULTS, YOU DON"T! They are sneaky, cruel, and will subjugate you if given a chance. Even your anger and defiance is innocent. In the hands of the wrong adult it could be molded and shaped into a situation that, if it does not kill you, will destroy you in many ways. We will defend and protect you with our very souls if that is what it takes.
We DO understand you dear, that is why we smother you.
2006-08-12 06:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents do well at least my mother do but i guess u have to have some type of connection with ur parents for them to understand but sometimes they do understand they just do want to face the facts because it would mean that we as teens are growing up and some parents hate the fact that their teens are getting older and they might also think that since we are gettin older we will be more difficult
2006-08-12 05:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by bxshorty064 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have lived in a different generation than you are. Life then wasn't as full of the same problems you teens have now. It's difficult to understand what you have never experienced. Give us a break, we really weren't put on earth to make you teens miserable.
2006-08-12 05:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 25 and mom to a 2 year old...so i fall somewhere between adult and teen. All i can tell you is that sometimes parents get a little caught up in their current life and they forget how it feels to be a teenager. they never forget the things they did, which they will almost never tell you, but they just can't remember the feelings of being misunderstood and all the emotional rollercoaster rides teens feel like they are on. It' hard to be between chld and adult, because you feel like you're growing up but people are still treating you like you don't know anything. Try to discuss things with your parents calmly, if you get too heated that would be exactly what they would expect. also keep in mind that no matter how old you get or how much growing up you do, your parents, especially your mom, will always see you as their baby. it sux but it's true. just try to bear with them and when your time comes to be a parent remember this feeling and break the cycle. Much luck to you!
2006-08-12 05:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Passionfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its all perspective. Teenagers can assume that their parents are irrational and out of touch, when really they not only understand being a teenager more fully than you realize, but theyre able to see the pitfalls that these years, and early adulthood present. Its natural for parents to want to help their children avoid those problems. Although knowing how to isnt always a natural reaction.
Children do not come with owners manuals. Just because they feel one way, and parents feel another way, doesnt mean either are right.
2006-08-12 05:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do understand but dont agree .teen years are for growing up and apart from the parents this is why you feel like you do .
2006-08-12 05:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you ask some of the stupidest questions, and you want to grow up faster than is physically possible. Just stay babies till you're 21, then go out in the world and get some experience
2006-08-12 05:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every party thinks of itself as the one that does not need advice or guidance. Just human vanity passed from generation to generation.
2006-08-12 05:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because when they were teen agers themselves times were different, the essentials were the same the pressures were the same but the world around us was different
2006-08-12 05:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by lost&confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋