my 3 and a half year old son is stubborn, yells and throws loud tanturums when something is not as he wants?

Answer 1

Start watching Super Nanny and Nanny 911. They show excellent parenting tips for troublesome kids. Often the child is acting out because of the way mom and dad treat each other.

Answer 2

Tell him these are the rules, there will be no throwing, no screaming, no hitting, etc., whether you like it or not. If you do those things, you will be sent to your room. Lock the door, if necessary.
If they do it in public, tell them they will lose a privilege, such as no going to grandmas later, no candy in line, no t.v. shows tonight, no video games or computers, whatever is important to them.
If you are crafty, you can make up a chart to illustrate it for them, but I don't use one, and my kids are usually pretty wel behaved. They know that I mean business and I don't take any crap from anyone, especially not a little kid.
The trick is to be quick, be consistent, and and stick to what you said, no matter what. NO GIVING IN!
Sometimes they are really out of control, and I give them a slap on the behind to get their attention, and grab them by the shoulders, look them square in the eye, and tell them to look at you. When you finally have their attention, tell them in a calm, low voice exactly what they are doing wrong, and what is going to happen if they keep it up. Do not tell them they are going to be rewarded for good behavior. They shouldn't get a reward for being good! It is what is expected of them, and it is just the way it is.
I also find it is easier on everyone involve to remind them ahead of time what is expected of them, as well as what happens if they misbehave.
Example: When we get inside the store, I am going to buy groceries, and then we are leaving. You will stay by my side the whole time, and will not run away or raise your voice. Do not touch anything or ask me for anything. I am not buying you anything. So don't ask. If you run away, yell, whine or ask me for things,or misbehave in any other way, there will be no t.v. when we get home.

Answer 3

You should ignore him, he is looking for a reaction and if he doesn't get one he'll stop, it's very important that you do not give him what he wants when he throws tantrums, and you could also punish him if he throws a tantrum, like not letting him watch his favourite cartoon or doing something he likes, of course during this punishment you can interact with him, he is small and you can play with him instead of watching TV, just get the point across and act the same way every time else you'll get him confused.

Answer 4

what's your question? Are you asking if it's normal or what to do?

Firstly, he is definitely looking for attention. And this is a predictable behavior for a 3 year old. Does he do this only in front of you or someone else? If so, your/that person's behavior might trigger it. Talk to him about it when he's not throwing a tantrum, explaining that mommy/daddy does not like it when he does that, and he needs to act like a big boy. If he wants something, tell him that he needs to work for it - say, two days of picking up toys, or helping mommy/daddy with something.

Answer 5

ok, first you need to stop catering to the little kid. when he wants something like a juice box or a toy he saw on the tv dont rin and get it for him. for the toy just tell him no and if he throws a tantrum over it youve got two hands and a paddle for a reason. but before resulting to corporal punishment you should explain to him that mommy wont get the toy for him because she spent all of her money on other things. or you could pull out the chest of toys you already have for him. the little booger is just doing these things to get attention. with a strong will and the ability to ignore most of his unneededwants he should calm down. if not you could always resort to spankings. trust me they straighten a kid out.

Answer 6

let him do it, u don't give in to what he asks for.....do this for about 2 months or so, your son will near that he cannot get anything he wants when he throws tantrums.
OR When he does something desirable (getting a good grade or behaving the way u approve of) u could reinforce him by giving him what he likes.
hope this helps...
good luck!

Answer 7

I think all kids go through that stage, at least mine did. for yelling and screaming, the first time he did it at home, I kept telling him to scream louder and to continue doing it until he got tired, then I told him I did not understand what he wanted when he acted like that. Then I sent him to his room until he could come out and talk nice.

Two days later, he started the tantrum, we did the same thing.

He went to his room, 5 minutes later, he came out and talked nice. He realized that screaming and tantrum throwing was not going to work and he never did it again.

When he whined, I told him, I don't understand when you talk like that. Until he talked without whining, did not get what he wanted. Whining was also short lived.

Good Luck, I know it can try your patience but they will out grow that phase into a new one.

Answer 8

sounds kinda like this book i read where the main character demands attention throws tantrums and even destroys citys,, if the kid has anything on that guy maybe he is on his way to being a god....

Answer 9

Time to give him a time out. Watch Super Nanny she is great.

Answer 10

Just tell your child to straighten up. If you can't earn his respect, than when he becomes a teenager he won't even mind you. You are his mother, he should listen to you, not you to him.