Could being homosexual be about nurture?

Question

To be honest I think my sexuallity was determined when I was born but as there is def. proof and some people think it is nurture I may as well think about it.

I am just wondering if any of you had any homosexual occurances when you were very young? As I did, and it makes me think could that really of made me want more therfore making me gay?

It is something to think about? Did you have anything like that?

I meant no def. proof of it being gene related.

Answer 1

I believe that the nature (physiology) has to be there. I also believe that the environment can and does influence how we respond to our physiology. I happen to believe that homosexuality is such a taboo because the majority of the population is not 100% totally straight. Historically, having lots of children improved odds of survival for the family, clan, group. Sorta like eating pork had a higher probability of being contaminated and causing death. Both became taboo for a survival reasons. Homosexuality would not have become taboo if there wasn't some level of commonly experienced draw towards the same sex. If not, then why the heck would it be such a big biblical deal? Those of us who are physiologically gay/lesbian can't focus our desires on our heterosexual impulses and experience a fulfilling life because these impulses are biologically not strong enough. Unfortunately, we are outcast and shunned because of the taboo that once did have a basis in improving survival of the species but now only serves to legitimize bigotry (which often is a form of self-hate).

My only homosexual experience as a youth was exposure to a very bitter, screwed up aunt, someone who I did not want to grow up to be. She was lesbian and I was slow to come out of the closet due to an early misassociation that to be gay meant to be like her.

Answer 2

If you ask many straight people who are honest, they will also admit to having homosexual experiences when they were young (simple stuff, mind you, not full out penetration or anything like that). That's part of growing up and being curious when you're young.

I did have some same-sex horesplay when I was young, but then ended up dating a girl for three years and we could never have sex. When we broke up, I tried dating men and suddenly realized, oh my god, I'm totally gay -- it just felt right!

To answer your question, I think it's nature rather than nurture. Check out the 60 minutes clip on this website, it's amazing:

http://www.borndifferent.org/

Answer 3

The American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association and others have stated that sexual orientation is determined prior to birth. Some studies of twins where one is gay and one is not, though raised (nurtured) together tends to bear this out.

However, I do think that things that happen to some people during their childhood help in getting the to the stage of acting and accepting their gayness earlier. And that perhaps even someone who is otherwise straight may be psychologically pushed towards some gay behaviors based on his childhood experiences. Nothing is pure.

Answer 4

When I was a kid in school there was another kid we all teased and called him "girly"... Of course, he grew up to be gay. When he was a kid I don't think he thought about being gay or not, it was just that all the other kids made that choice for him.

I know a guy who went to prison and he told stories about how people in prison would pick a guy out and homosexually rape him, over and over, night after night. After a while the guy begins to accept this, and is made into a gay person.

So, can we pick on someone and either convince or force him to be gay? Can a person be broken down mentally, to think of himself as somehow different, and not normal? Or can we take a child and convince him that he should experiment with hetero and homo relationships to see what he really enjoys best. Then if he felt anything for the homo relationship then we'll just categorize him as gay.

Answer 5

The way I see it, there's no definite proof of anything either way. I happen to think that for me, it was at least mostly biological. But, I admit that that's not necessarily the case, and I also recognize that if it WAS the case, taht doesn't mean that it's the case for EVERYONE else. Thing is, I think it doesn't / shouldn't matter. The one thing I know is that "nurture" or not, it's NOT a choice for me. And if it was for other people, it STILL shouldn't matter. IN the US anyway, there's no legal reasoning that it should be illegal or that we should be left out of any part of the constitution.

Answer 6

Suleman: no longer all Muslim leaders and students condemn homosexuality (in basic terms maximum of them). the debate exists. what's obvious, so far, is that it's not sparkling no count if that is nature or nurture, yet data is strongly interior the area of nature. Your sentence 'is conscious he has created a sin' isn't sparkling; who's he? the guy or Allah? additionally, no one (different than possibly the Prophets, peace be upon them) can comprehend if a guy or woman will visit heaven or hell. purely Allah extremely is conscious. A single 2nd is sufficient to deliver a sinner to heaven... who, as properly Allah, extremely is conscious the soul of a guy or woman? Pray, examine, do good deeds, analyze, be genuine to your self: those are a number of the the stairs to heaven. advantages on you.

Answer 7

I really believe it's genetic. none of those "influences" that narrow-minded straight think "cause" it ever happened to me. I was not molested, I did not have gay parents, I didn't know or was I ever around anyone gay growing up. I didn't even meet anyone gay until I finally "came out" to myself (at 18). I've met and I work with someone who experienced being molested AND was even raped. she's still straight.
I look back, and I know I was always attracted to females...even as a kid. I always thought boys were gross, and wanted to play "doctor" with other girls (no sex involved...didn't know what it was then...LOL!). there was always attraction, and I was confused and in denial for a long time.
I was born lesbian, there's no doubt about it.

Answer 8

One scientific study shows, it's about how our parents raised us, it happens normally when the mother is more dominant than the father and when the father appears to be farther than the mom.

Almost 80% similar to my situation, but the thing is, while I was still in my crib, even before turning 1, I already disliked dolls and end up playing with toys for boys, early crushes on girls.

Which makes me think, it is all about the heart.

Answer 9

It's not just homosexuality, but ALL variations of sexual orientation are probably the end result of both biology (outright genetics or hormones prior to birth) + the environment. Or it may be that bisexuality is the default orientation and we are moved towards homosexuality or heterosexuality. To answer your full set of questions: Yes, I have heard of homosexuals being exposed to homosexual activity very early in their childhoods, especially males. Researchers in sexual orientation refer to "critical periods" in our lives where sexual activity of some kind or some other experience can direct our sexuality in one direction or the other.

Answer 10

I was 9 years old when I met a friend of the family and yes he was gay and I remember being so drawn to him so much, It was truly my first attraction and so to answer your question yes it happen earlier on in my life so I also feel I was born the way I am..