also, i have been under stress. it seems like all i think about here lately is getting pregnant, and being a mother. i think about it so often, it seems like i cant even enjoy my sex life anymore. I am always wondering " i wonder if i will get pregnant this time" everytime we have sex, and its starting to bother me. any suggestions on how i can block these thoughts out? because they say if you think about getting pregnant, you wont. any ideas would be extremley helpful. thanks.
2006-08-12 05:06:43 · 21 answers · asked by dreamychick_2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
ive also never been on birth control!!!
2006-08-12 05:16:40 · update #1
The same thing happened to us and it took 8 months. Finally I just decided if it was going to happen it will. Right after that, I got pregnant. I know it's hard to do, but relax. Too much stress is stopping you from getting pregnant. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-12 07:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes about 90% of all couples 12 months to get pregnant. Some sooner. Some later. I used to be where you are. Although, it was 6 years ago. Every month was agonizing. I cursed my period and my body.
There is some evidence that stress can affect your menstrual cycle. You want to find some way to relax yourself. They actually have acupuncture that is designed to enhance your fertility.
The sex-as-a-chore phenomena is not uncommon and yes, it can be troublesome for you and your husband. Thinking about getting pregnant won't necessarily prevent you from conceiving. If this were true, every teenage girl would be praying to get pregnant so they would NOT get pregnant. You do want to keep positive thoughts, though.
You need to find a way to put the romance back in the babydance. Next time you are ovulating, rent a nice hotel room. Get some champagne to relax you (a little bit of alcohol is okay when trying to conceive). Play some soft music. Just spend the entire weekend together. Focus on the both of you, not the baby. You'll have 18 years to focus on the baby. However, if you rent a hotel room, avoid the hot tub or bath together (hot baths can kill sperm).
If you are in a romantic location and its just the two of you, I'm pretty sure you will be able to focus more on your husband. You may still have some intrusive baby thoughts, but close your eyes when this happens and think sexy thoughts. Use that time to plan how you could make your next sexual experience more romantic.
2006-08-12 09:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by psychgrad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is a factor. Stop trying to have a baby and just enjoy sex once more. Its not unusual to not get pregnant straight away. Friends took between 1 month and 18 months, so stop worrying.
When your body is ready you will become pregnant. Until then enjoy your husband and your love for each other. Good things come to those who wait.
Good luck, fingers crossed
2006-08-12 05:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Publicist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a perfectly healthy couple to take up to 12 months to concieve a baby. That being said, you should really get to know your body, understand when your most fertile times are, you can't just go by one of those generic ovulation calenders..
if you are serious about it, learn how to keep a chart (sorry if you already do this) Also if you could join a message board with other ladies trying to concieve you could get out your frustrations/thoughts with them instead of stressing out you and your husband and it might help to calm you down if you understand what is actually going on with your body
2006-08-12 05:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to figure out why you are late. There could be several problems that have a symptom of late or no period. I was really irregular for all of my teenhood and when I got married and started trying to have a baby i couldn't. The doc told me I had polycystic ovarian syndrome.It is worth getting checked out. It may very well be stress but in the same aspect it is not good to go without your period. The doc can put you on certain hormones that will allow your body to regulate itself.
2006-08-14 05:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by kungfukitty24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like when you arent ready for a baby thats when you get pregnant, lol. i hate that its that way, but just remember that if you arent pregnant maybe its not the right time, and if you keep thinking about ya know i wonder if im pregnant yet, its really stressing your body out, i got pregnant when i was 17 and babys are great but there is a reason why you arent yet, it may not be the right time, but just keep trying and dont think about it, just think about how it will happen eventually. good luck sweetie
2006-08-12 06:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by sammie nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal to take around 6-8 months to concieve. but i promise you that you wont get pregnant when youre stressing over it. It ruins more than just your health, it screws up your PH and the sperm cannot live long enough to make it to the egg.
when you STOP TRYING you will get pregnant. Please believe me. It happens all the time. Ever heard of the Pregnant adoption? Women who adopt because they cant get pregnant just about always end up pregnant within a year... because theyre content and happy. lol.
Just relax and stop trying to hard. And remember, it takes your husband 72 hours to replenish his sperm count after having sex.
2006-08-12 07:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also TTC. Getting preggie is always on my mind. Ive tried everything to get it off but it doesn't work. I know a couple ppl who were ttc and then gave up and got pregnant. Also, if you have been trying since early april its ok. Wait a yr. and if you haven't gotten pregnant yet see a doc.
2006-08-12 09:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are realy that interested,,Get an examination from fertility doctor..then you where are you at,,that will release some stress..secondly if you are like me a God believer ,,i will just leave it for God,,and the way to forget such things is to get busy with other things,,Go travel some place if you have the money and time,,you will soon forget what you have been into..or Do a project of your skills and dream ...
2006-08-12 07:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my cousin!! she stressed and stressed about becoming pregnant for nearly a year until she decided to take her mind off of it and focus on something else...well of course, she started dieting and exercising and ended up losing the 25 pounds she'd been wanting to drop, not even a month later she found out she was pregnant....so just stop worrying about it!!! find something else to keep your mind off of getting pregnant...if it doesn't happen before too long, go see a dr.
2006-08-12 07:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by laceyalexisb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋