ok, i happen to be vietnamese and is going out with a caucasian girl, any ways i was talking to a few of my friends and the subject of interracial dating came up and they got into the subject where they said that i am not the "typical" asian person...i dont talk like one, i dont act like one, i dont look. i dont get it when they said that, what is a typical asian person? im bout 5 '8 1/2, 160 lbs, play LAX, wrestle, if i had to say im just the average guy, not asian guy or w/e, just guy. i think what they meant was i dress white? i do live in an all white community and all my friends are white. i need your thoughts on this.
2006-08-12 04:46:20 · 17 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your "friends" are narcissistic. They love themselves and their kind. This isn't a white thing, this is a human thing; and requires a conscious effort to avoid this trap. You are right to be troubled by their remarks. It would seem that your friendship is conditional on you continuing to reflect back to them the culture that makes them comfortable.
It may be time to ask yourself if you have, at least on an unconscious level, denied your true self in order to "fit in".
This is a subtle illness and is quite contageous. You may find yourself guaging the value of others by the level of their conformity to your ideas and culture. However, the fact that you were troubled enough by that remark to ask this question, tells me you may be destined for a richer life.
We grow when we are challenged, and stagnate when we are petted and stroked. A wise man deliberately pits himself against a set of circumstances that cause him to dig deep, and discover true strength. I urge you to embrace your genetic heritage and find out who you truly are, where you came from, and the many factors that have combined to make you the man you are today.
2006-08-12 05:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Caucasians but, I am Asian and African American and I get stuff like that all the time from all different races. I just think some people are truly idiots and watch too much television. They see a particular race on TV and expect you to act that way.
Just ignore ignorance.
2006-08-12 04:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by ej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, quit caring so much about their opinion on this. Dress, act, and live how you prefer. If you like a white girl, date her. I have to hope that both of you are drawn to each other as people, not a skin type. I'm white, so white that my husband jokes that I'm translucent. But skin color shouldn't matter. If they bring it up again, tell them there is no typical. And that you are trying to be yourself, not fit some racial mold.
2006-08-12 04:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a poor person to ask this question to. I long ago decided there are only two kinds of people in the world; a s s h o l e s and not-a s s h o l e s. This applies to all colors and races and sexes. You are what you are and we are all different. Viva la difference.
2006-08-12 05:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think.......
that when it comes to a race of persons that one race can not have a set 'typical' look
i mean, seriously, did they expect, because you are Vietnamese, for you to ride your bicycle all over the place and wear a funny hat?
its like pointing out a farmer in bibbed over-all's chewing on a blade of grass and calling him a 'typical white guy'.
2006-08-12 04:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's their preconceived notions of what an asian person is that needs to be evaluated? God made all people, we are all a special creation of His and created in His image - so we are alike anyhow.
2006-08-12 04:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you like to do, what you look like, what you dress like. There's not kind of typical anything. Be who you want and tell them to shove it. As long as you're a nice guy, most people don't care.
2006-08-12 04:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by renee1724 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are stereo typing you. Everyone is different in many ways no matter what race you are. Be happy for being you and do not worry what those others say. You are you and that is what is important.
2006-08-12 04:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You friends are being biggots. And you must talk act and look vietnamese since you are vietnamese. Perhaps you mean you don't act, talk, and look like the stereotype your friends are referring to?
2006-08-12 04:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Garth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋