ok so look, my boyfriend proposed to me just a day ago I told him I would think about it because I told him that I saw what he did when he brought two girls into our apartment having threesomes. He confessed that he was bi sexual. I've never been with a guy that isn't 100% straight. His porn obssession is a little cooky and I'm not ready to have a irresposible father when we have kids later on in life. I really love him even though we've only dated for three months. I feel like we have a bonded connection but I'm not sure yet. I dont know whether marrige is what should happen. Is it possible that we stay boyfriend and girlfriend a little longer?
2006-08-12 04:20:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dear how old are you? Dont you dare marry him... He needs help. run now
2006-08-12 04:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not the solution for a bad relationship. He is using this as a means of covering up or rectifying the threesome.
It is hard especially when you start to have feeling for someone, but as you said he also confessed that he is bisexual. Ask yourself if this is really what you want. That means he has sex with men also. Think of all the infection problems down the road... AIDS. Do you really want to get ttrapped in him.
This seems like he is giving you reasons to let him go.. so why not. Have a cry and let him go. He doesent seem like the right candidate for a family, dad, role model.
Some men will just never grow up. Leave to to spending him life fulfilling fantasies.
Get out,,, it is still early.
2006-08-12 11:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by rizzio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking us here if you should marry someone and tell us all this stuff about him - I would actually tell him - what are you crazy - this girl is acting like a freak. Run and run fast. However, the more I read what you say - it sounds like you might be a perfect match. So mazel tov to you and may you and he have a happy life together.
I really don't have a good answer for you - I kind of hope you are just bored to be honest and you posted this message because you are trying to be funny.
2006-08-12 11:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't marry him because he made a BAD mistake that affected your relationship with him.
But I must say that there isn't anything wrong with dating and marrying a bisexual person.
My step-mother is bisexual and she is married to my father. They both love each other VERY much and have been married for awhile now. They have 4 kids, including me and my step-mom is very responsible. But of course that depends on who the person is and their persoanlity.
Listen to your heart and make the right decision. Not becuase it's what you want but also what you need and that it's the right thing.
Yes, it is possible for you to stay boyfriend and girlf friend, but be sure it's the right decision and...
it is also possible that you both can be friends.
2006-08-12 11:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by The Imaginer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not marry this guy. He has already been unfaithful and it has only been 3 months? I do not think you should even be with him. You should dump him. If he cannot be faithful now there is no way he will be faithful later. I do not see this relationship growing into anything good. Move on this guy is a waste of your time!
2006-08-12 11:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own question love.......... but honestly think about this OK... you said you have only dated for 3 months and look at the stuff you don't like about him so far......... you already know what you want... he does not by the sounds of it... your not sure.... so just don't go there... hell if i was dating someone like him, I'd be running a mile...unless i was just in it for the fun of it.. and from what i have experienced with friends of mine dating bi people... it never lasts for long... when you think about it...Bi people are just not the type to stay settled.they want way too much.
2006-08-12 11:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you should wait and see where things are going in a year, you haven't known him for too long and you should think about this long and hard in the future. With todays divorce rate you should just enjoy each other and see where things go down the road ... don't rush into anything you have lots of time!
2006-08-12 11:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Melody A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot? I'm not trying to be hate'n but.... come on! Scroll back up to the top or the page and read your own question again! If you still don't know, go ahead and marry him.... You will be the perfect couple!
2006-08-12 11:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Smart Girl", He doesn't seem to be ready for marriage and I suppose I wouldn't be ready for his fetishes either. I think he still needs to grow up a bit. Stay as girlfriend and boyfriend for awhile and see if he changes .
2006-08-12 11:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's being honest about it all, as long as he's not hiding it. But one should wonder if he knows your on the internet trying to find an answer about you two! Good luck, but he seems like an honest guy so far. If he leaves you for another man at least you won't be surprised.
2006-08-12 11:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by will2succeed 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do NOT marry him!!
You "really love him" after 3 months?! It takes about 2 yrs to really know someone.
Listen to your gut feelings -- anything that makes you uneasy about this relationship, should be a red flag. When there's ANY doubt, WAIT!!!
2006-08-12 11:26:32 · answer #11 · answered by Joya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋