18yr old son has no clue what so ever on how to be a man/adult and how to be on his own. He has no clue about what the real world is like out there. He has been taught and told about it all but fails to get the picture.
2006-08-12 04:09:29 · 14 answers · asked by michele k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get him to join the military he will learn real quick!! He will learn to value and respect life as well as learning there is more to life than just video games, parting , etc.!! Or whatever else he is into besides taking steps to becoming a matrue adult and acting his age.
2006-08-12 04:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tusker9E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 18 year old son, so I know what you're going through. No mother wants to kick her son out of the house. Can you imagine what he may get into out in the world on his own with no money and no where to go? And besides the worrying and strain on yourself will be greater than the worrying and strain he's causing you now. I agree you have to show him tough love. Allow him to live in your house, but don't feed him or buy him anything. although you're not going to put him out, make him believe that you are. Give him a deadline, to get a job or go to school. If he gets a job, make him pay a bill. Here's a little something I read the other day and gave it to my son:
To all Teenagers:
If you are sick and tired of hearing your parents ***** about everything, by all means, get a job, and move out while you still know everything.
2006-08-12 04:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Itsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No clue about life? What 18 year old does???
Just because a person reaches a certain age, doesn't mean they are there maturity wise. Eighteen is still VERY young.
You don't mention what this is about. Work? School? Responsibility? Life in general?
Continue to parent him. If you've taught him correctly it should kick in, soon. If not, you may have to give him a firm nudge in that direction.
2006-08-12 04:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more details it is hard to say. Has he graduated? Has he had chores to do throughout his childhood? Other responsibilities? Does he get an allowance or does he have a job? Are you still cooking, cleaning, chauffering and doing his laundry? Do you give him money? My best suggestion is to give him 30 days to get a job and then ask for 25% of his wages (net) for rent. HE can also mow the grass, vacuum, dust, prepare dinner etc etc. Get the picture. Give him deadlines and do not do it with anger. When you show him anger, you show him that you are not in control.
2006-08-12 04:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Annie R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way he will learn is by doing... You can go about it different ways. But make him get a job and start making him pay "rent" to you. If its not much it don't matter. If that don't work, then the only other way would be to push him out of the nest and let him see that he can fly on his own now..
2006-08-12 04:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by aintlovegrand78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been taught, but obviously not been practicing it. You have to teach and show him. You gotta start tightening the belt a little, make things a little more difficult for him. If he lives with you, don't do anything for him. (laundry, dishes, room cleaning, bathroom cleaning) Let him do everything himself. Force him to get a job, and DON'T help him with money, it's called 'tough love' it will straighten him out.
2006-08-12 04:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out of the house and let him learn the hard way
2006-08-12 04:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my mom did. If he has a car, insurance, cell phone, etc...make him get a job and pay for it himself. It will give him some sense of responsibility and independence.
2006-08-12 04:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teaching and telling is one thing. EXPERIENCING is the real thing. My daughter keeps asking me the same question of her daughters. Yet she doesnt allow them to be independent, because she is always there to take care of things for them. Today's youth is so very sad. They have no independence whatsoever........from the very smallest of responsibility.
2006-08-12 04:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out of the house or give him no money, dont give him rides anywhere, take away cell phone, basically give him the idea that he needs a job to survive
2006-08-12 04:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by paki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋