Ok, I know I'm a good looking woman, and I know my husband loves me and my body. I can handle seeing a woman that looks better than me, as long as I'm with my 'girls' - but if I'm with my fiance, for some reason when I see him looking at a woman that looks better than me, I get extremely angry and jealous. Even though I know he's only looking at God's beautiful creature, the woman. Women ARE beautiful to look at, so why do I feel so angry and jealous when I see him looking at a woman with a better body than me?? I don't want to feel this, I want to be cool about it, what's wrong with me???
2006-08-12 04:03:20 · 11 answers · asked by amyvnsn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me clarify...we are engaged, but have been living together for 3 years now...I'm used to calling him my husband.
2006-08-12 06:27:34 · update #1
What I get caught up on is it sounds like you have a HUSBAND and a FIANCE..that could be the problem!! LOL
Now that you have cleared that up....jealousy is typically a sign of your own insecurities, and a small part is also a control issue. If you can get your partner always worried about your jealousy then your fear of something happening isn't as likely in your mind. You see you are predestining something to happen. If you live your life as yourself, being trusting, open and caring, then you can better enjoy your relationship. Something may happen, sure, that puts your relationship in jeopardy, but don't live it before it happens.
2006-08-12 04:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of guy's and girl's are that way i think, your not alone. I'm not saying that is a good thing though. If u can try and swallow the jealousy a few times and not think about it then it will get better. I know u say that u know he loves u but u still have a few insecurity issues,...maybe u have been burnt before.
2006-08-12 04:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.....I'm not sure I have this straight. "Your husband loves you"....but....."when your with your fiance?"
Regardless, I think it's very inconsiderate to be so obvious when ones looking at another while in the presence of one. Sounds to me as though he brings out your insecurities instead of complimenting them.
2006-08-12 05:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity is the foundation of jealousy!! Remember, the body fades in time, but the brain has new knowledge everyday!! So use your brain, not your body!!
2006-08-12 04:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Antoine a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE YOU JEALOUS ABOUT IN FIFTY YEARS EVERYBODY LOOKS THE SAME!!
WHEN MY HUSBAND LOOKS I TELL HIM>>YUP>>SHE IS A HE>>USUALLY IT WORKS!! YOU NEVER KNOW IF SHE IS A HE !!! SO KEEP YOUR EYES TO YOURSELF I SAY!
SO WHAT IF HE LOOKS I REALLY DON'T CARE!! I LAUGH AND LOOK TOO! THEN I SAY TO MY HUSBAND YUP>>I LIKE HER PURSE NOW CAN YOU GO BUY ME ONE?? AND THE SHOES I MUST HAVE IT EVENTUALLY HE STOPS BECAUSE IT WILL COST MONEY! I TELL HIM IF YOU WANT ME TO LOOK GOOD BUY ME THE PURSE AND THE SHOES>>>BINGO HE DOESN'T LOOK AS MUCH..lol..
2006-08-12 10:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your thinking wrong you should never think someone looks better then you even if they do always say he's just looking i know a better looking you think that he'll disappear and leave you from them that's why just put yourself first and there is no prob there
2006-08-12 04:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOU THINK HE LOVES YOU ONLY FOR YOUR BODY. GIVE HUBBY SOME CREDIT. ALOT OF MARRIED WOMEN DO A LITTLE SIDE-EYEING WHEN SOME MALE EYE CANDY COMES ALONG, AND SO DO MEN.
2006-08-12 04:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't preasure yourself. Nothing is wrong with you. It is natural for humans to be jealous sometimes.
2006-08-12 04:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jane*One look is all it takes... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alwz think u r the best.n bliv ur guy.
2006-08-12 04:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by silentlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obsessional syndrome get help
2006-08-12 04:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Wyatt Earp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋