Should we display manners, or do what we feel and not care about what others think?

Answer 1

Naomi,

While it is not very fashionable among the younger generations to display manners publically, there are several good reasons why you should. First of all, you only get one chance to make a first impression. Many potential relationships, have been derailed by a lack of courtesy on the part of one person. You do not know what is going on in the minds of other people. A careless remark, or show of disrespect at the wrong time, could get you into a situation you might not want to be in. I have seen fights start over the smallest percieved offenses. Displaying manners and courtesy tells everyone around you, that you are a person of intelligence, and that you are thoughtful. What in the world, is the benefit of rudeness? None whatsoever. It is a sign of ignorance and deep down, fear. That's right, fear. Those who feel intimidated by others, who may be more intelligent, or capable, act rudely to make themselves more threatening. When was the last time you saw someone act rudely, and you were favorably impressed, and wanted to meet them as a potential friend? I am not saying you should worry about what others think. God knows, that is a recipe for psychosis. I couldn't care less what others think about me. However, simple wisdom, says that it is smarter to open with manners. If you decide you don't like them later, you can do whatever you want. If you open with rudeness, you just lost all of your other options. Manners and courtesy open potential doors for you. Rudeness, closes them, usually forever.

Answer 2

Why display manners? Lets all just urinate and defecate where we please...they do in Calcutta!

Why worry what others think about, for example, passing gas (farting) at operas, during sermons, at funerals and Birthday parties "better out than in" Dr Howard Dean, always says!

Manners? It would be highly impolite to wear clothes in some cultures or sit crossed legged in others or eat peas with a knife, getting them all lined up wow that's a really challenge! I know I
tried many times as a child imitating a Popeye cartoon, it's fun.

"Vanity vanity all is vanity"...King Solomon

Answer 3

Manners shows other people that you have respect for them. If nothing else, it's just another good habit to have in life.

Just because society is not too concerned with something, doesn't mean you shouldn't be as well.

When we say we don't care what others think, that's usually head shrinker pseudo psychological mumbo jumbo, to make ourselves feel better about something that makes us self conscious.

Though it is true, when people are negative about you, it's usually out of immaturity or ignorance. If that is the case, then ignore it.

However, sometimes people say negative things because they are true, and despite how it makes you feel, they are actually trying to help.

You have to learn to discern between what is constructive criticism and what is just hateful.

Answer 4

I was taught by my mom as a lil girl to be polite..always say thank you, and please, always ask before taking, ect...
I think that's where it all begins (with your parents) and if your taught from a kid it usually just comes naturally, I know I use manners no matter where I am or who I'm with.
Theres no set of manners for certain people, you should use them always.
I agree it shows intelligence, I just can't see myself being rude or not having any manners....it's a sign of respect for them and yourself.
If you don't respect you then no one else will, not having any manners is just dispesctful.

Answer 5

I think depends a lot on the setting. I'm not a fanatic about it & I don't follow Emily Post to the letter. But generally, I try to avoid doing things that gross people out. I also try to be courteous to others. If I have a hot date, then I'd really want to put my best foot forward. It all boils down to showing respect for others & yourself.

Answer 6

Yes, please.

Good manners do seem to have become passe in American society, but that is a decision that we all make for ourselves in our lives. I choose to teach and model manners and the golden rule both in my home and in my classrooms.

Peace.

Answer 7

I find it is always best to mind your manners, but that doesn't mean to be fake. Be kind, considerate, polite, but not a doormat.

Answer 8

people should always consider the culture and norms of the place you are in, but we wont loose anything if we act as we should

Answer 9

I couldn't give a monkey's ringpiece what anyone thinks.

Answer 10

It usually depends on who I am around. If with my parents, then yes, if I'm around strangers, then usually no.