Girlfriend still gets phone calls from ex-boyfriend whom she dumped soon after they got angaged and he is in another country where she will be going to work next year. She claims not to love him but her family wants her to marry him since he is rich. Could i be losing her?
2006-08-12 02:34:32 · 12 answers · asked by Stan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is gone and get used to it. Why do I say that? If you have to wonder about this now and don't have that strong of a foundation to do so.... how are you going to have a long distance relationship? You said she is going to go work so I assume that means a long time. So be cool, be strong and confident and send her away with good memories. It is what it is. Odds are it's going to be over but at least leave the door open for the future. She may wish that she had never left you and regret it. So tell her that you love her and that though you wish she wasn't going you understand that this is what she is doing for herself. Maybe she might come back someday. Your inside voice and guy to guy? If she really loved you regardless of anything else she would stay with you. So it's a great job opportunity for her? Well people sacrifice and stay with those they love and find a different way. Sorry man, not trying to hurt you and make it worse, just being honest. Send her off with a good end and focus on the fact that you were lucky enough to have the time that you did with her.
2006-08-12 04:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she broke it off on good terms ,Why not still be friends,But if it was not on good terms she should send the ring back and choose somewhere else to work.Start a new beginning for herself.As for her parents she must be firm! This is her life & her future not theirs.Money is great but it is not the answer to all.If there is one thing I can't stand is how parents plot for their children.If she is not emotionally & physically interested in the ex
then trust her.Either way it is her decision. The only way you will lose her is if you show signs of jealousy and insecurites. Give her her space to think alone and make her own decisions. She has you,theparents,and the ex to think about.I;d say her plate is full.
Worrying too much on your part will only drive her away farther from you.
Good luck!! Mimi
2006-08-12 02:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Miriam C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on how much she loves you, and how much influence her family has over her. If she is going to another country and the only person she really knows over there is him, she would most likely gravitate towards him and that, along with the family influence plus the fact that she already knows him intimately, is going to cause a lot of problems for you.
Yes, I think you will lose her. Your options would be to go with her if at all possible, or see if she will stay where she is.
2006-08-12 02:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does mail service exist where the guy is? She could simply mail the ring back, if she's broken up with him. Watch your step, she may just be playing games, and eventually will marry the guy. She should return the ring NOW, if it's over.
2006-08-12 03:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't return the ring, that's one problem for you. To me, that's tacky. An engagement ring is not a gift. It is a token of your commitment. When that commitment is broken, the "collateral" is returned. Without knowing more, it sounds like you have another problem with the ex-beau, mainly because of her family, it seems. Wanting to please your family can be very tempting. I say work on making the family love you more. That will help you with your girl.
2006-08-12 02:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by kevinb49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says it truly is going to be back, besides the undeniable fact that the guidelines fluctuate in each state and in distinct international places. maximum states evaluate it a conditional present. various states evaluate an engagement breakup to be "no fault", meaning the hoop could be back no count number whose fault the split replaced into. different states it relies upon upon what led to the breakup. If the hoop replaced into given on a birthday or for yuletide, it will be considered a present without strings connected.
2016-11-24 21:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks bad She should mail the ring back with confirmation of delivery and insurance cuz it goes back to you and you can sell it if you want to. My son went through that awhile back and now he has a much better wife than the other would have been!! Her family sounds stupid interfering so much. Sounds like she already did break up with you. TELL her to send the ring back.
2006-08-12 02:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to talk to her on this one,,she should return the ring whether in another country or not,,they accept mail i assume.she will have to put your mind at ease but have you spoken about a long distance relationship? it may or may not work but you need her to talk to you about this
2006-08-12 02:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost her, if she took your ring in good faith with the intention of marrying you, and she broke it off, then you owes you your ring back. have her mail it to you.
2006-08-12 02:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Earlier the better. Then you can know for sure if she loves you or him.
2006-08-12 06:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋