Say, your a grown up but with a really strong inner child that makes you do bratty, bad things and buy stupid kids toys, how do you grow up and find yourself properly?
2006-08-12 02:22:26 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Fcuk it - Stay young!
2006-08-12 02:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by jack 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Accept responsibility for the the bratty, bad things you do and quit blaming it on your inner child. Once you accept grown-up responsibility and pay the piper, work on empathy in the sense of how what you do affects others, be it their financial health or emotional health. Do NOT just assume that all will be forgiven. Sometimes there will be things that will not be forgiven. Sometimes, relationships will be severed as a direct result of your behavior. This is where the growth opportunity may occur when nothing else has done the trick. Finally, get to the point where you can read the cost benefit analysis of your WOULD-BE actions and determine whether or not there is a greater benefit to you that does not negatively impact others unnecessarily in doing something bratty OR if there is a greater benefit to you and others in your NOT engaging in childish behavior. As for finding yourself properly, all I can tell you is that it's a process. We evolve and what we've found in our 20's may seem insignificant to what we've found in ourselves in the 30's and so on. We keep growing, developing an understanding and acceptance of who we are and fine-tuning the aspects of ourselves that really don't work for us. We also grow our awareness of others and continue to find our place among them that is at least polite but strives to be beneficial within the community. When you step beyond serving yourself, you do become a better and more mature person.
2006-08-12 09:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by badasslilnici 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have to ask you first - what do you mean by 'grown up?' And, does being a child mean that they are brats and do bad things?
All adults, as well as children, love toys - they are just, usually, different toys. Take the mobile phone for example! But I still love playing board games such as Hungry Frogs!
There is a difference between growing up and being an adult. There is a difference between doing bratty and bad things and being a child.
To find yourself you need to be honest with yourself. I suspect that you don't like yourself very much at the moment. So, you have to sort out in your mind what you have done to make you not like yourself. It is only then that you will be able to progress.
If you are doing 'bratty things' you are probably being selfish. Learn to give as well as to take. Giving is far more rewarding than taking.
Once you learn how to do this you will learn to like YOU! Then you can move forward - and really, the only way that you can love anyone else is to learn to love you, first (but remember that love is giving and sharing - and wanting to give - no taking). Do that and you will have it all sorted out.
2006-08-12 09:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All the things that go together that we call our lives - we can look at these on a scale from not doing them at all, to doing them very efficiently. Once a person can do something without any problem (including bad feedback) they are adult in that particular way. If something is 'childish' it needs more thought and improvement. Some people count wiping out the bad feedback with a weapon, but the problems with that are severe. The efficiency is about the sum of all the returns on our acts, includes the future obviously.
As for an 'inner child' - if something is useful to you then it is useful. Can you look at this 'inner child' for it's merits?
2006-08-12 09:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Chris cc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a big Peter Pan fan! My philosophy is that it's okay to grow old, but don't ever grow up (completely). Having a bit of the 'inner child' is a good thing. You can keep a light and happy perspective on things. Toys are fine, everyone likes to play regardless of age. Bratty or bad actions should stop, because with age comes reason and caution. You have to find a middle ground...old of body, young of mind. I seem to maintain the balance...it's a nice place, and I share it with numerous stuffed animals!
2006-08-12 09:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many grown ups of all ages who don't act very mature so age and maturity don't always go hand in hand . I see nothing wrong with buying stupid kid toys as an adult if you enjoy them . Being bratty and doing stupid things generally result in consequences which usually are unfavorable . I suppose once you've had your fill of unfavorable responses , you'll come to realize this isn't the best path to happiness. We continue growing our entire lives really and just reach different levels of maturity at different times depending on our environment and learning experiences. I feel if your happy with your life and those important to you love you and are happy also then you've done very well for yourself !
2006-08-12 09:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you ever read any of Sigmound Freud's work you'd know that in order to 'grow up' you'd need to pschologically change the attitude of your mind. Then again, having an inner child isn't necessarily a bad thing.
2006-08-12 09:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Edward M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically grown up
Mentally immature - that is what it is
To become mentally mature you need to experience some situations and problems and deal with them without anybody's help
what these are is individual - some people can get there quickly others make a few mistakes before they realise the rught way for them. A sign of maturity is taking responsiblity - for your self and your actions.
2006-08-12 09:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by justme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be real & dont be afraid to express yourself, be you. I am an adult now but still i have a little girl feeling in me inside, well what can i say its nice to be a little girl once in a while. Life is a daily challenge, each day you will learn & make some mistakes which you can learn from it... as you learned from it, you grow...
2006-08-15 05:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by geieyoung 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you will have no choice in the future but to grow up, whether you know it or not, because you are expected to. Once your parents die, you will have to support yourself more, and have no choice but to forget the toys and pay attention to a job.
We still all like a laugh with a dweeby toy, or an interesting trinket
2006-08-12 09:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Josh M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like your on the right path asking that. The rest comes as you (hopefully) grow wiser mentally through life experiences. The less you experience, the less you grow.
But never, never lose the inner child that keeps you young! Then you just get boring, and die. And that sucks.
2006-08-15 17:24:47 · answer #11 · answered by TK 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋