2006-08-12 01:56:37 · 16 answers · asked by Snowflake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I Know I shouldn't feel this way but he was my first love and a part of him has always stayed with me. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband very much. This guy and I are very good friends today but I just can't stop thinking about it. How can I make it stop and still continue to be friends with him? I never told him how I felt and that he was my 1st love. Please help. Mature answers are needed. Thanks.
2006-08-12 02:00:42 · update #1
IM IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION AND IT HASNT GONE AWAY cuz the first love is the soulmate and I have loved him for 40 years. There will never be another one like him. It might not go away. Just keep living the best you can. Life sucks most of the time. Grab whatever happiness you can find. My true love is 1200 miles away and that ruined everything. Good luck.
2006-08-12 02:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going back in your mind to what you experienced when you were with him which was good times but on a different level. You are treading on shakey ground, sweetie. No, stop pretending you can be "friends" with him.......it is an excuse to be around him. If you value your husband, your marriage and your future you will eliminate him from your Christmas card list and go in the direction of your husband....out of site/out of mind. Stop playing with fire since you will be the one to get burned. You have to answer a couple of questions......Will you be better off with this guy in your life or out of your life? And, "Would you want your husband to be doing this with an old girlfriend?" If you answer these questions honestly then that is what you must do. Stop acting immature, selfish and stupid and do the right thing.
2006-08-12 02:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would begin by saying ask God to take away that feeling. The love for your husband is greater than any 1st love. I know how you feel. I went through that for several years myself. But as time went on and I kept praying about it I was finally freed of it. Just keep thinking about your wonderful husband every time this 1st love pops into your head.
2006-08-12 02:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the problem why you can stop thinking about him you know you love him still but you haven't except it that it's true, ok to get rid of those thoughts you have to tell him i love you but i don't went any relationship from this feeling, it how i feel and i just went to get it out, you got cought in the mix of two your feeling are mixing up so you need to varified them to let them go away, tell your ex what you fell about him abd tell him the real truth you don't went to be with him but you need to get this feeling of your mind body and spirit, thas the only way i see it, cause if you don't bring what you feel inside out you know it grow and get bigger and might distroyed you mantally physically and sygology, best advice talk with your self first and understand what is going on in your body at this time of the year and remember to rethink you guys relatioship what happen before you too got devorce than if you find the reason, be prepere to do the above.
2006-08-12 02:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not I was just talking about my 1st who was my 1st love. We stayed together for 4 years and I had to end up moving away to get rid of his hold over me. I have recently come to grips after 15 years with the fact that I still love him.
But, I have to remember that its easy to romanticize a relationship and forget about why you broke up in the 1st place. Try remembering the pain of the actual relationship, not the goody goody one from your imagination. Trust me, it helps you get over all of the fairy tale huppla....Or, jump in the sack and get the screw of your life....happy humping
2006-08-12 02:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by justbecause0040 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you moved on and married someone else,, you should not be over friendly with this man cause you are married to someone else now,, thats disrespectfuol to your new hubby, well past is past, we all have some feelings for old loves blah blah... but maybe you should remember why you 2 got divorced in the first place and start thinking about why u married your current hubby.Out of sight out of mind, stay away from your ex and concentrate on your new currentt hubby.Do it for yourself, and out of respect for hubby.
2006-08-12 02:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that it's something you won't get over, over-night... it takes awhile.
It took me 2 years to get over my 1st hubby of 21 years... (it's a long story).
Even though you're free from him, the mess isn't over... there are still emotional attachments to deal with... there's something about him that you liked & it keeps your heart hanging onto him.
There are good qualities in everyone... & it's ok to appreciate those good qualities.
It's just another one of life's mountains that we've had to climb... but, when you reach the top, you'll find sweet peace/relief.
2006-08-12 02:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you are marreid now, and still in love or have feelings for the past one, than you are not in love with the one you are with now so, what the heck are you doing? So, my suggestion to you is to sit back and think about this. The best thing is keep yourself busy and try your best not to think about that person.
2006-08-12 02:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is cut off all contact with your 1st love... let it be in the past... otherwise, your marraige will end up like this 1st love of yours' did
2006-08-12 02:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by vanillafr0st1ng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband as you say you do, then you need to respect him and consider his feelings. How would you feel if the situation was reversed. Concentrate on YOUR man. The one you are legally bound to.
2006-08-12 02:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋