What are some good ideas to bring back the romance, mystery, etc. to a marriage? I'm looking for things beyond the mundane candy, roses, etc. Give me your best ideas!!!
2006-08-12 01:21:04 · 10 answers · asked by Max 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby is the best. We have three children (one of which is a newborn) so sometimes getting out for us is a challenge. However, when we do get that chance, my hubby makes the arrangements - which is just one less thing that i have to worry about!! - then he calls me up from work and asks me out, as if we are dating. Is so sweet! I have found that it is the little things that he (we) do everyday that keeps things alive! Calling eachother out of the blue just to say "I miss you, and I love you!", touching when we pass in the hallway. Remeber how much fun it was to sneak around and steal a passionate kiss from your lover without your parents knowing? Well we still do that, only now we are hiding from the kids, LOL. We hold hands and cuddle when we get the chance. I know that all of this may sound silly to a man, but you must remember that the other half of the reason why the "heat" may be missing is because the woman in the relationship doesn't feel the emotional connection as well as she should to keep the "heat" alive. My hubby understands this, and make an effort to show he cares on a daily basis. It really is the little things that matter....things that most (especailly men) would think are really stupid!! My first marriage was to a man that rarely did anything nice for me, infact he only bought me roses once (when we were dating) and he never did any of the little things at all. By little things i mean, opening the door for me, and small household things (just to take the pressure off of your wife) like simply rinsing the dishes after dinner (takes ten seconds-but saves your wife time and effort). You wanna really 'heat' things up, then clean the house while she is at the grocery store, or tell her to put her feet up while you do the dishes for a change. This will show her you care AND make her less tired so she is more loving in the bedroom. Alot of men complain about their wives non-sexual interest, yet make no effort to help out so that her interest COULD be there instead of fatigue. In the end, try to look at things from HER point of view, and remember, when she is happy, then you will be too!
2006-08-12 01:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing the mystery, passion, etc. has kind of fizzled out of your marraige. So now is the time to bring it back! You are right, candy, flowers, etc... not going to work. I've got ideas for the bedroom, and beyond.
Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, and I'm hoping you know how your wife is. If she was adventurous in the beginning, but has become more boring, that doesn't mean the adventurous side is gone.. it's just in hibernation waiting for you to wake it up. Suggest new and fun ways to spice up your sex life. Try doing it in public places, with the chance of being caught... take her out on a date and go parking afterwards...
Also taking the time to tell her all the little things you love about her, in great detail, is usually a beautiful and benificial tactic. Take the time to talk about things, how much you love each other, and perhaps reminiscing about how you felt when you first realized that this girl was special, and different from the others.
This is pretty long, but if you feel like I might be on to something, let me know, and I'll give you more ideas
2006-08-12 08:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanillafr0st1ng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was the last time that you sat close together just looking into each others eyes and running your fingers overher arms and neck. With a light touch. Not sexually!! Often times we forget about the little things. Remember when you couldn't wait to touch her or kiss her this is romance at its best.
2006-08-12 08:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that I have understood about keeping my wife and our marriage in continuous harmony is that we continue to date. I call her from work and ask her to go out on a special date on a very regular basis and each time we go out I treat her as though it wre the very first date we were o. I love every essence of my wife and want to keep things as fresh as the day we met and do everything in my power to make that happen (believe me when say the rewards are incredible)
2006-08-12 08:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the "dating each other" idea. Its the daily grind that is a killer of passion. On the weekends go different places, try different things together! Go to a ball game, to the art museum, to the zoo, see the world together! It will give you new things to talk about and share.
2006-08-12 12:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Marrs G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving little notes of love around the house is one way. Planning some special time together is a great way to say I love you. People find it hard to find time for themselves, but it is much needed in a relationship.
2006-08-12 08:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend the day together going places. and i know this sounds corny but it works for me, simply take her hand while you are walking, make sure you open the door for her when you go somewhere, and a simple touch works wonders.
2006-08-12 08:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
role play for one for 2 do something that she or u wood not ever exspet try walking on the dark side
2006-08-12 08:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like you have seen her for the first time and fall in love with her for the first time
good luck
2006-08-12 08:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by missing u2323 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help.
2006-08-12 08:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by ssgtusmc3013 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋