Why in western lifestyle is Divorce an option. Putting aside Abuse which is a clear reason for divorce. Falling out of love isnt. You made a commitment. Europeans have a different outlook on marriage , its for life and its the decision you made. Falling for someone else is not an excuse. Westerners need to look at the europeans and understand that they have a better idea of the meaning of marriage.
2006-08-11 23:56:34 · 16 answers · asked by Mr Warrior 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Falling for someone else is an excuse for the person that DIDN"T fall for someone else right? So if a man or woman has an affair, doesn't the person that has been betrayed have a right to move forward, since the vow they entered into was broken by the partner?
I agree -- really NOTHING should be too hard to work through for a good couple. But when one couple throws in the towel and cheats, the other partner has to have the rights to pursue a true love again.
2006-08-11 23:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as you know people change. Time does change people and the person you did love at one time can change to the point that they are no longer the same person you married. Sometimes that works out better in the relationship and sometimes it works opposite. The point I am trying to make.. is what is the quality of life if you are very unhappy. Sometimes the person whom you marry isnt the person they have portrayed prior to the marriage. But as you stated.. there are also poor excuses in which people use to claim divorce. I guess it all depends on the situation and the persons involved.
2006-08-12 00:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So if people make a mistake they should be forced to live the rest of their lives in misery - their one, very short life?
Besides which, whenever divorce wasn't all that accessible people just used to walk out and marry someone else (ie bigamy).
Also aren't Westerners Europeans too? (US excluded obviously) Which part of Europe are you talking about?
2006-08-12 00:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I partially agree, that some people give up very easily on mariage and they shouldn't because it is NEVER ENDING work, you have to attend to it like a garden. However if the love isn't there why would you stay and make all parties involved unhappy? Therapy can't make you feel something that is gone. If the love is still there than yes explore ALL avenues give it your all and as long as there is an ounce of love then never give up!!!
2006-08-12 00:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Completly in love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just cant help who you fall in love with, for alot of us, it isn't something that is planned. People grow apart and if you know that there isn't a way to bring that love back, why stay with someone you know you wont be happy with? I wish every marriage had a "happily ever after ending" but it doesnt
2006-08-12 01:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by furbee_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all want to think marriage is forever but for some of us it isnt. im seperated after 15 years of marriage and never thought in my wildest dreams that it would not last.
things happen and its not just other people that your spouse falls for. we seperated because his lifestyle and mine were growing apart. we had three kids growing up while he was not growing with them. he had other sporting intersests and would spend all our money on that leaving us with just the bare essentials. how is one suppose to live like that and raise three kids.
i could do a better job on my own and i did. now im in a relationship after a break of six years, this relationship is just over 3 years and i know im with the one i want to be with forever.
so please done judge us on what we do, you dont know us at all. its not all about 'falling out of love' or infidelity.
2006-08-12 00:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Sometimes, I can't understand why people change their emotions. Marriage IS a commitment that you will spend the rest of your lives with that person. If you don't want to marry him/her, why say "I do?"
2006-08-11 23:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by Crescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you're committed when you are imprisoned!
Don't ya wanna get outta there when you've had enough?
If the "marriage" is not happy and not working, why spend the rest of your lives in misery and depression?
Get out and get a life, it too short as it is!
Hey, purple _kathryn. Your my kind of woman.
Wanna marry me?
2006-08-12 00:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by lissenin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes different cultures have different ways of looking at things and those people whom still hold true to those beliefs stick to them and instill them in the generations that come along that's why.
2006-08-12 00:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is just an extension of religion and like religion it is part of the downfall of society.
2006-08-11 23:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋