I know her husband would have beaten me up if I did shag her but that would have only happened if he had found out but it was my ex wifes best friend who came on to me but I regret the fact that I turned her down.
My wife divorced me for not being honest with her but I didn't want to break up her friendship with her friends as she didn't have many, just Nettie and a few ugly single blokes at her work who saw my wife as a cheap slapper, sadly this turned out to be far too accurate I'm afraid.
I know my ex wifes' best friend broke up our marriage but how can I get over the fact that I got divorced for being too honourable?
Also, can anyone give me advice on how I can make a relationship work when I don't believe a word anyone tells me anymore?
2006-08-11 23:55:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are dumb F-------
2006-08-14 00:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so with you on this one, but 1st i want to congratulate you for being hounourable, unfortunately my partner wasnt and niether were my friends
as for trusting people hun, i think your doing the right thing by not trusting what people say, been let down so many times by friends that i think i have lost my faith in people
the only person in this world that you can trust is yourself, if you bare that in mind you,l be ok.
you should be grateful tho that you can look yourself in the mirror everyday and know you are in the right, you did nowt and that makes you the good guy.
be proud of that man, as those good guys are so few and far between. you should have no regrets, and your ex wifes mate was probably skanky anyway lol
hold your head high man
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2006-08-12 00:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision at the time... you can't look back at situations under new circumstances and reassess... but if you get a chance now, then do her every position possible...
i had a friend that had a chance to sleep with a hot woman on a biz trip, didn't do it b/c he knew he'd not like himself... found out three months later that his wife was cheating on him for a year... he wished he had sex with the woman that night... but then changed his mind b/c he knew that being immoral is not a way to make up for getting screwed over...
2006-08-12 00:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEITHER DO I, your motives for not sleeping with your best freinds wife were not honourable, that was self presevation, i think you are better off out of the mess , honesty is the best way to keep any relationship , from both parties, ''you reap what you sow'' communication, talk about everthing especially how you feel, dont forget to ask how she feels, consideration and respect, thats how you keep a relationship alive,the other word is ''mutual''regards LF
2006-08-12 00:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by lefang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to lose the scruples for a while and just nail anything attractive that crosses your path. The best way to find a relationship is not to go looking for one.
And if you want to get some peace of mind, give your ex's friend a call and do her first.
2006-08-11 23:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find your last sentence really amusing.
How will people be giving you advices when you just said "I don't believe a word anyone tells me anymore".
And I think its good that you didn't knock up your ex-wife's best friend. That way, you look desperate, both of you.
2006-08-11 23:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by minjooie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting into marriage is a commitment of both partners...it's a give and take relationship...you can't make it work by yourself alone...find one who you think will be a good partner in life....the reason you did not sleep with your ex wife's bestfriend is out of respect to her husband..it's good that you do what is right...am proud to say that you are one in a million to be able to resist temptation...Goodluck and God Bless...
2006-08-12 00:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why have a relationship if you dont put 110% in to it?, why bother at all? you think to much of the past, dont think about what you could of done, think about what you can do now!. Oh and another thing dont tarnish every woman with the same brush, trust is a issue you have with yourself, wether someone in the past helped with it or not, only you can learn to trust your instincts again.
2006-08-12 00:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be pleased with yourself you did nothing wrong, you tried to spare your wifes friendship, i think she was using the honesty thing as an excuse it doesnt seem like a divorce issue to me, yeah you could of or should of told her but surley she could see why you didnt, you gotta give people the benefit of the doubt trust people until they give you a reason not to, no relationship will work without it.
2006-08-12 01:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be nervous, just relax, close ur eyes, and think wht ur feelings of heart says. I think u needn't be nervous in sleeping with ur ex-wife's gf, coz u r now alone. and everyone needs a partener to live life happily. Whts the problem if it is ur friend or ur ex-wife's friend. Just chill & enjoy. :-)
2006-08-12 00:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by serious! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seems to me your very a considerate person, for not sleeping with her, and u have guilt, well if the bestfriend broke your marriage then its good you turned her down, she just another money hungry whore[sorry for the bad language]
but if it helps telling the bestfriend to back off and no see her would help, and believing is hard but u just have to belive things and dont belive it. find a truthful person. =]
2006-08-12 01:21:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋