last night i did something incredibly stupid?

Question

i kissed a guy when i was drunk and out with friends,the problem is i'm married!! the guilt has been eating me up all day..should i tell my husband or just learn from my mistake

Answer 1

learn from ur mistake, there is nothing else u can do now, unless tell him but i dont think thats a good idea.

Answer 2

You were out with friends one day its going to come up in convrsation. I would tell your husband, honesty is everything, yes you might lose him, yes he probably will not trust you for a while, but thats the only way you will learn from your mistakes. If you don't tell him what do you think will happen when he eventually finds out and he will. Then he will look at it as you've been lying to him all these years. You got yourself in a jam now you have to pay the consequences not him thats not far to lye. If it's eating you up as bad as you say it is tell him. You might not like the outcome but then you will know that you were honest and told him right? And you won't live with that guilt deep inside your gut forever either. If it was just a kiss i don't think you will lose him probably some trust ok alot of trust but thats your own fault. If he does divorce you im sorry but it's no ones fault but yours, you shouldn't have done what you did. sorry to be the bummer!

Answer 3

dont say anything. You would do more damage . my guess is you will never see this guy again so it wont matter. As a woman you have the ability to block things out and as time goes by you will forget it even happened. Dont tell him simply because he will think other things like, what if shes seeing someone behind my back, or how long has this been going on. It will raise too many questions with him even if you justify it. Let it go.

Answer 4

If there is no chance he will find out, and no chance it will happen again, don't tell him. If you regret it whole heartedly, (and don't relive the kiss in your mind,) you can get past the guilt. Make it up to him in small ways, like make his favourite dinner or leave him a love note with his packed lunch. Don't make it obvious, but this will strengthen your love and commitment to him. If you told him, it's likely he would forgive, but he'd never forget and that would be more damaging to your marriage.

Answer 5

is your husband a pretty understanding man if so tell him if not how long can you keep this from him and how do you know one of your friends won't blow the whistle on you i think you should tell him it is better it come from you than someone else you never know maybe he'll understand be truthful would you prefer him to be mad at you for a couple of days or even weeks or would you rather loose him all together?

Answer 6

a mistake realized itself is half solved.be careful next time. :) the guilt will not eat you up if you take the right decision next time

Answer 7

Well, be careful next time. Telling your husband is just going to raise concerns... bad idea. But, seriously, don't let it slip again.

Answer 8

that's really unhappy that persons use alcohol to alleviate stress. imagine of why you drink. Is it to in good structure in? To get rid of stress? There are different options to end eating. It causes you your existence. What do you value? listen, that's your in straightforward words danger in the present day. bypass contact a psychiatrist Please, and robust success.

Answer 9

depends how uderstanding your husband is. u should know your self how he is. if he will get too hurt then just let it go its not worth it. just remember he did trust you going out with your friends. he might not anymore. one more thing are you sure he wont hear it from your friends later on? if so then u should tell him first.

Answer 10

don't tell. learn from your mistakes. and if your husband finds out and asks you about it, tell him you don't remember coz you were too drunk.