I'm supposed to be going meeting my online friend on the 21st (i'm 15...16 next month, the person i'm meeting is 19) but my mom isn't sure about leaving me with her for the day because "London is a big place, and i don't know the girl" i told my mom she can talk to her before i go... but she's like... you only know what she tells you, surely should be convinced i know the girl, i talk to her everyday online and my mom knows that. How can i convince her to trust my judgement and let me go?
thanks
2006-08-11 23:09:30 · 14 answers · asked by ugh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you're mom is right, and is only looking out for your safety. As a matter of fact, you're very lucky to have a mom that's letting you meet someone you met online at all.
Perhaps the first time you two meet your mom could go with you, and then after she meets the girl for herself and sees that she's a decent person, would let you two spend a day together? Or if not your mom, maybe she would allow you to meet your online buddy with another friend that your mother trusts?
2006-08-11 23:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have the girl come to your house first and maybe just hang out there? Ya i know that not a option. But, she's always gonna be protective ask her to trust you this once and tell her that you will call periodically to let her know how things are going. have you ever even talked to her on the phone I hope so. Be careful meeting someone off the Internet I can see where she's coming from but I understand your point to that you want your judgment trusted. it's kind of weird that the girl wants to hang out with a 16 year old too, you must be very mature. really there isn't away to convince your mom except to tell her to trust you. Ask if she doesn't trust you know will she ever and when you are 16 so you do need to start making your own decisions and "mistakes". Good luck!
2006-08-12 06:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by ~Bethany~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not blame your mom for not wanting you to go you do not know her she could be a he and a child molester people can make you think they are God on line you come to find out that they can not live up to that. Just think of how many parents wish they would have done the same as your mom cause they were lost to online predators. Be greatful for the fact that your mom lloves you and wants to protect you. Think about the worst that could happen first cause this could be one of those situations.
2006-08-12 06:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by bouncey1yeah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your mother, why not just meet for lunch with your mom present. Even though you talk to her all the time at 15 or 16 you are also a target for exploitation by unscrupulous persons and you need to learn to be wary.
2006-08-12 06:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by ashton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to bugger off. It seems you've already done all that is within reason but your mother rather believes the hype in the media of how unsafe internet contacts are rather than her own daughter. If there is something you have to learn to do than it is to trust your own judgment, an overprotective mother/father is an obstruction there, unless of course they see sure signs of things possibly going wrong. Without that you have to turn the cards and challenge her to convince you.
All I can say is be safe and stay safe by simply being on the alert. Oh and don't forget to have fun.
2006-08-12 06:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't hurt to check that she isnt someone else, this IS how people go missing and such these days, you know?
online, photos and conversation can be forged, have you chatted to this girl on webcam? on the phone?
its just a lot of girls i know of 19 , wouldnt be interested in my 15 year old daughter...they tend to stick to their own age group or older..of course thats not to say shes lying...but shes only being careful...
your mum might even think of worst case situations wherein the girl could be part of a duo and be WITH a man, it happens you know..if she met her with you, then left you to it, WITH mobile contact, she might feel more re assured
2006-08-12 06:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by littlestarr02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should invite your mom to come with you for the first hour or so just so she can be sure that you are not meeting some 40 yr old man who pretends to be a 19 yr old girl.
2006-08-12 06:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Joe. Ask your mom to come along and meet the girl and tell her she can stay or leave whenever she feels comfortable with leaving you. Please, try to trust your mom's judgment. She loves you and wants you to have friends and be happy, but she also wants to protect you because you are precious to her and can't be replaced.
2006-08-12 06:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Azriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't under stand why on earth you would want to meet someone in person that you only know on-line they could be putting on a false front i don't think your mom is being unreasonable by not wanting you alone with this person people are dangerous even when you think you know them on-line see pictures cam whatever but it could all be a scam to get you to come to their territory and they could abduct you or even hurt you really badly
2006-08-12 06:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by ~♥~Nay~♥~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom is right . and you shouldn't trust anyone that easy you don't even know the girl she could be lieing all along but you can take your mom with you for the first hour or so so she can feel secured
2006-08-12 06:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by helen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋