i deeply love my kid &my husband.but everything changes when i gave my baby birth.we have not much to talk.i try to keep balance and share my love to my baby and husband.when my husband come home i always try to talk &pay attention to him.but i think it's only me to try.he only pays attention to our kid.manytimes i feel so lonely.I used to tell him but he said i think too much and it better 2-3days and it return to be invisible wife again.
ps.we've no sex for a year and half.Is it weird? cos my friends said it's too longtime.
2006-08-11 22:02:19 · 9 answers · asked by Arin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everything going fine with you. just concentrate into the kids, raise them well. as you gave birth a new baby your mind is full of emotion now and doubts are growing. yes, have more discussion with your husband and share your views. try to give him as much love as you can so that he becomes your slave and everything would be fine. do not judge sexual relationships by others' comment. because your case may not fall into others' category the way they think! so feel proud to yourself and for your family. cheer up. you have everything
2006-08-11 22:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children do change things for awhile, it can be hard to balance it all. The most important thing to remember is to talk and let him know what you are feeling and do or part, if he doesn't know what he does is hurting you how can he try to fix it. So many times in a marriage spouses believe if they hint or make comments about the feeling they are having or things they want/need they other will know and when they don't problems/arguments occur. Communcation is the KEY, you have to express what you want or feel don't take the chance on you marriage, give it ALL you got!!!
2006-08-12 06:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Completly in love... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is subconsciously feeling jealous about the child and thinking that the child has taken you away. This happens to all men but the process of recovery or reconciliation with real life is almost simultaneous and spontaneous. Since the matter is dragging for long you should seek help of a psychiatric.
2006-08-12 05:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by lahirisoumitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my older sister. Turns out her husband was jealous of her attention to their new baby. He felt like her attention was divided between the baby and himself where it used to be just him. Also, my brother-in law lost his atrraction to her because she's now a "mother" and that turned him off so, they stopped having sex for a while. Weird if you ask me. Right now the baby is 3 yrs old and she and her husband are doing much better. He just had to come around and get over his own insecurities.
2006-08-12 05:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try winning ur husbands atteniton back. do fun things you used to do before the baby came.if the baby is too young you could try leaving him/her in ur or his parents care so that you could spend time together.
your husband is wrong in neglecting u. tell him that in no uncertain terms. but be sure not to regret being a mother because of this.
2006-08-12 05:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him some time...Things will get better by time...Its only because maybe he wants to spend time with his cute little kid....And maybe he is too tired after working that he can give time to only one!!
Give him some more time and your love.....He will change for sure!
2006-08-12 05:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by PeHLi KiRaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a very long time
you need to flirt more and make sure you spend HEAPS of time with your child then your husband will see you and know what a lovely person you are.
2006-08-12 05:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by RandomChickSam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arin if you im me we can chat i have some suggestions,
2006-08-12 05:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by sarah l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's time for counseling
2006-08-12 05:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋