Hey Im 14 and i have had dreams about having sex with guys since I was 12. I didnt have dreams like that everyday but once in a while. Lately Ive been having them every day. Also there are times I just wanna have sex really bas. I cant control it I just really feal like it but i dont because i dont want to get pregnant!!!! Is this normal and what should I do??????
2006-08-11 21:48:09 · 25 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hei kid..
if ur question is about ur feeling for having sex... then yes.. in this kinda advanced ( so called ) society with all those kinda stuffs around us a girl so young getting that kinda sexual urge is understandable.....
but saying this i dont say its normal to have sex at this age ( so young)... first of all ur body is not prepared for that and mentally u may get disturbed at a latte stage of ur life...
u r so young and sure beautifull and intelligent.. else u wont ask this question i am sure.. i feel u can have better things in life than sex atleast for now.
Hope to hear from u soon.
good luck
2006-08-12 00:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal hun.
I was the same way when I was 13 on up. Even as an adult. However, when I got the urges, I would try to think of something else and get myself busy. Get my mind to think on something else or find something I lost long ago lol. (that take awhile to find lol).
No sham in mastur.bating either. I think it is natural to do. We are sexual human beings.
For your age, you are right. You are way too young to have sex and put yourself at risk of getting pregnant and std's.
Sex is more than just "feel good". Sex is everything and having sex becase of being "horny" isn't a good reason to have sex.
I think you will find it rewarding if you wait longer and find other ways to help your sexual craving.
If I had sex like I wanted to so bad at 13, I would of regretting it. I wouldn't of regreted the person since I loved him and I still do (we are together as adults), but I would of regreted the time.
I regret having sex at 18. I regret place and person who I thought I was in love with for 3 years and my age. I wish I would of waited longer. I was the last virgin out of my h.s friends too...which I was very proud of that. You can't take things back, so when you do decide, make sure you are ready and think ahead if this will be something you will regret. Any doubt means to wait.
2006-08-11 22:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have sex until your at least old enough to stop asking others if it's ok to have sex yet.... because for sure your not ready. You are not ready for a serious step like that.. wait a few years at least. Take your time find a guy, fall in love with him, and get birth control then maybe your ready. So many people think about having sex, even someone that is as young as you are. I am 21, and I can remember thinking about since middle school myself, but I didn't have sex until I was 20. Your normal, but as bad as you think about it your not ready yet, and that's for sure.
2006-08-11 21:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The urge to have sex in female teenagers are as strong as they are in male teenagers. It is normal to be aroused by seeing your male counterpart. It is good you realize you are interested in boys sexually and you are asking questions.
The hard part is understanding that your thoughts are normal but also understanding that control is highly recommended. Sex is not a bad thing and it should be done in a most responsible manner. At the age of 14 though sex is highly irresponsible if you are not completely understanding the consequences and your own body.
If you have to urge to have sex and you find it completely uncontrollable then masturbate would be in order for you. This is for two reasons. One to relieve your desires and two to help you understand your body and to control your feelings. Talk to you mother, she has really gone through what you are going thru. Really, if not your mother then another woman Adult friend you trust. You are not alone out there. Parents are there to help you thru these crisises.
Trust me when I say, it is best to talk to your Mother now then to have to talk to her if you get pragnant.
Good Luck.
2006-08-11 22:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freud said that infants even have sexual desires, so anyone can have urges. The question comes to you that you should control them. Rememer there is a thing called Aids. Mostly black people in the usa have Aids, but so do many whites. 67% of black males have HIV. But 3% of white males have it. And that is a lot when you consider we're talking 3% of nearly 300 million people.
I'd suggest this website for helping you with your urges:
www.joycemeyer.org
2006-08-11 21:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's jus' normal you know, i've been in your shoes before... BUT NEVER EVER EVER DO SEX! Those are only dreams, not the fact you have to do it. Dreams are dreams, illusions, not the actual thing. It means that your hormones are working; normal. So i know when you get more mature then you would forget to dream like that, like when i was. I've been having dreams like those like, when i was 12, too. Don't panic, "it" can wait
2006-08-11 21:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by cheri_blossom3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal I'm 14 to and i have the same feeling plus all my friends are doing it so it puts pressure on me to its just our hormones that make us wanna have sex a lot I'm tiring to hold off 4 the right guy but if this guy is the right one 4 u then go 4 it just make sure you use protection and stuff but remember condom are only 90% effective so Be careful
2006-08-12 06:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by ~Unsure Girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if it is normal. But, my suggestion is to wait until you are a little older. Enjoy being a teen for a little while longer. At least you are thinking of possible consequences. That is a good sign that you will be able to choose the right answer for you.
2006-08-11 21:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..it's not normal because your body is not mature enough for it..the legal age would be around 18 or 20..that's when your body is mature enough for sex..well, it's normal to have sexual desires...that's human nature..you just got to practice self-control at this time..also 14 is not advisable for girl or lady to get pregnant..and think about the consequences of getting pregnant young and at early age..bringing a child into this world incurs a lot of responsibilities..just do self-control..wait for the right time, place, and person..save yourself since you're too young for it..
2006-08-11 22:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by sexy_love 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it normal to have dreams and think about it. Everyone does it! Your too young to have sex just yet, wait until you find the right man, and when your ready and ready for what might happen after such as pregancy.
2006-08-12 02:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋