i cut myself a lot, and people tell me i should stop. but its so comforting seeing the warm red liquid ooze down my palms. i really need some help in finding a motivational tool so i can kick the habbit.
2006-08-11 21:30:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not sure what to offer you as motivation. The bottom line is that cutting IS a valid coping mechanism - though not a healthy one - so its hard to quit. Here are some things I used to stop cutting myself - some alternatives, mostly. I'm not sure its what you're looking for, but maybe it will help?
There are tons of ways people try to stop cutting. Not everything worked well for me, however, when I tried to do it. Sooo, here are the few things that actually helped me.
First of all, keeping your mind off wanting to cut is the main thing you want to do. Which is waaayy easier said [typed?] than done, I know. Try listening to music, watching a movie you KNOW will keep your mind interested [which is actually harder than it sounds], playing games online [Sudoko always keeps my mind interested and its everywhere online], or - and this was the best one for me - exercising.
Not only does exercising keep you busy, but it gets you in shape and is good for you and all that - AND it releases the same endorphines that are released when you cut, so its vaguely the same feeling. Just be careful not to overexercise - you can fall into a whole new set of problems.
Another thing that helped me was drawing on myself with markers when I was really upset. It sounds kind of corny, but it did help a few times. Most people suggest doing it with red markers, but I used black, so I'm guessing it doesn't matter much. Red is more 'realistic', I suppose. But its the same motion, so it helped. Slashing yourself with markers isn't quite as satisfying as doing it for real, but it helped kill the urge.
ALSO! Setting goals helped a lot. First they would be short - you know, 'okay, I will wait half an hour to do it'. Then, if I could do that, I would go longer, maybe two hours? This would go on and on until I hadn't done it for weeks and didn't want to mess up my record.
Some other people do things like snapping rubber bands on their wrists, holding ice in their hands until it hurt, etc etc. None of these things ever really helped me, but I'm sure there are many websites that list other ideas that might help you. Here's just one small one that I found quickly:
http://www.psyke.org/coping/alternatives...
Good luck!
2006-08-13 14:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is sometimes a way of blocking bad feelings about other things going on in your life. If you want to stop the cutting you may need to figure out what is bothering you and another way to deal with it.
The best way to do that to find a reliable person to share your feelings with and a means of dealing with them. Meditation or support groups can help.
Whatever it is, I hope you can find someone to help you with it.
2006-08-11 21:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another way to control your pain. Find a hobby, a person to talk to, learn an instrument, paint, draw, work out at a gym (working out is really good for making someone feel better actually because of the endorphins) ... just find something that will make you happy.. it's not easy I know... but it does get better. After the darkness comes the light... yes I know that sounds cheesy but it's completely true.
I hope things get better for you =(
2006-08-11 21:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Scandalous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all why are you cutting in the first place, did something bad happen to you? cutting cannot solve the problem and it never will, i cut before myself, and well i probably wouldnt have stopped if it hadnt been for one of my friends, so my best advice is to talk to a close friend or family member and ask for help from them. they'll help you for sure.
2006-08-11 21:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by aaron m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You crazy *** hell you know that just do something dummy go out some where and give yourself some damn hope stop thinking about that crap that is no way to enjoy life like that just go to the mall do some work around the house wash cars or do something you like study or go to school
2006-08-11 21:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend's daughter was doing this and he was very worried. I saw one of the earliest epidodes of A&E's "Intervention" about a girl who cut, and I ordered it on-line. Because it was so new, it took a while, but as soon as I got it I gave it to him, and he gave it to her. She hasn't cut since, and she asked if she could loan it to her friends. Log on to their website, and I'm sure it's avalaible. Good luck, sweetie, there's people out here who care.
2006-08-11 21:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by terri m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that everytime you cut yourself, your slowly killing yourself. And if you like the warm oozy red stuff, put some coolade in a microwave and play with that. AND STOP CUTTING YOURSELF, ITS NOT HARD.
2006-08-11 21:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by whatever i don't care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bleeding halloween mask. and a punching bag. and get a boyfriend so he can make you happy a motivate you to keep on living to stay alive with him.
2006-08-11 21:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by shakat000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a psychiatrist.
2006-08-11 21:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by telis_gr1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could help you but i cant even help myself, earlier this week i carved my name into my arm but i do it to punish myself for being a failure,i hope you get the help you need just like i hope i get help, good luck with that.
2006-08-11 21:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by champagne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋