what do I do? I don't want to offend her by saying the wrong thing, but she needs to be more careful about this!
2006-08-11 21:25:37 · 26 answers · asked by carla here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are correct, she really does need to be more careful about it. Perhaps she is oblivious or she really doesn't mind. However, it is important that both individuals in a relationship remain open and honest to each other. Additionally, it is just as important to be considerate to the other person and respect their viewpoint.
You should get into a serious discussion with her. Without getting angry or impatient, let her know that you want to seriously talk about the issue. Let her know how you feel about it; if she truly cares about you, then she should respect your qualms. Assure her that she doesn't have to stop being flirtacious all the time. All should be well as long as you remain calm and stay truthful.
2006-08-11 21:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by olea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks she is your "girlfriend" she wants everyone to know she has a boyfriend. No female wants to be someone's "secret". If you do not want the rest of your family and the whole world (for that matter) to know she is your girlfriend, you need to break off this relationship and find someone who is completely unrelated to you by blood or by marriage. Find a girl you will not have to be careful to HIDE from family. Relationships are supposed to be socially comfortable.
2006-08-11 21:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to understand dateing your stepsister is never going to be accepted by your family or 99% of the world population in your lifetime.as a 45 year old involved in a 34year incestuos relationship i had to over come my desire to tell the world i was ok with it and be content with all the great safe sex i wanted with the people closest to me we have been very happy and content with the arrangment for many years .explain to her it has to be you two and a closed invirnment unless someone else you care about and trust joins i have 3 bros and 3 sisters and 2 cousins all live as one close happy loveing family
2006-08-14 00:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be more careful, in a manner not offending her. It could be achieved publicly or in private as you feel right in terms of your relation and circumstances.
2006-08-11 21:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u couldnt find anyone better dan ur step sister to date?
well i am not commenting on that... ok
errr well u gotta be a bit strict man. tell her politely but firmly that you dot like her behaviour. if things dont improve threten her with a break up.
2006-08-11 21:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't get past the first sentece your girlfriend is your step sister I aint understanding that at all.
2006-08-11 21:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by dorleejohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "audio" feedback doesnt work. Try Visual feedback. Make a video of her and play it back for her to see. Maybe she would get the point if someone hold a "mirror" for her to see.
2006-08-11 21:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and talk to her.. tell her what you feel and what her actions will influence how others might think of her. It may not be important at all how people thinks about her, but she should be mindful there are others that minded =\... so she should be more careful in conducting herself in future...
2006-08-11 21:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Abarai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it simple. In private let her know how you feel. Emphasize that you are not trying to hurt her in any way, but because you love her you hope she take this sincerely and positive.
2006-08-11 21:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yor family is messed up. But don;t worry she just wants to keep it there. Mayby other brother {who is your uncle} will be next--next Jerry Springer.
2006-08-11 21:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by Butz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋