Were they just staying together all along for their children's sake?
2006-08-11 20:01:41 · 9 answers · asked by Cathy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sorry gwaring2002 is this better Mr. Spelling Nazi DIVORCE
2006-08-11 20:20:20 · update #1
Often the children held the marriage together. Once the children leave there's no marriage left.
2006-08-11 20:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experts have actually identified three periods in marriage when a marriage is most likely to end in divorce:
1-3 years, when people are finding out about each other, and may decide they made a mistake.
7-10 years, when they have started having kids, have a mortgage, and are pretty much settled, which freaks some people out.
20-25 years, when the kids are grown, and people who have been unhappy for a while suddenly don't see any reason to stay together any longer--this last one can also partly be caused my mid-life crises in both men and women, and by significant physical changes, such as menopause or reduced sexual function in the men.
I have actually witnessed, up close and personal, several marriages that fell apart in the 20-25 year period, including that of my parents. Yes, I think that staying together for the sake of the children is one part of it; the kids were grown, so the couple didn't feel that intense need to make a fairytale life for their kids anymore. In all of the cases I have witnessed personally, however, there was also an issue of infidelity. I don't think it caused the divorces, but rather was a symptom of the fact that the marriages were on shaky ground in the first place. I think the fact the one or both of the people involved strayed was secondary to them already feeling like they wanted to try something else for a change, and not having a desire to work through the changes and problems they were having together.
One of the men (not my father) actually told me something strange. He is married now, and it's his third marriage. He told me his first marriage, when he was in college, was his "crazy in love" marriage, where he felt like he couldn't live without the woman; the second was the "I want this woman to be the mother of my kids" marriage; and this last one is the "I want to grow old with this person" marriage. He told me that on the first two, he knew very well that the marriages wouldn't last for the long haul, but he got married anyway. I think he was an idiot, and should have waited for all three things rolled into one woman, even if it meant marrying a bit later, but to each his own, I guess.
2006-08-11 20:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes most of the time they stay together for the sake of the kids. They wanted to divorce long before but didnt
2006-08-11 20:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Marriage isn't easy. Sometimes it doesn't work no matter how much time is invested. But yes, some do for their children... marriage is complicated. So it really depends on the couple.
2006-08-11 20:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Scandalous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 20+ years some people are just not happy anymore, and they see no point in being in a marriage where one isn't happy nor in love no more.
2006-08-11 20:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasuse they realize kids need their parents, and or they colud deal with someone else raising their kids.
2006-08-11 20:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by stocketrader24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do not understand what does marriage really mean. they dont know to appreciate and helping each other. they actually dont know what does life really meant to be.
2006-08-11 20:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Morshidi S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of spelling errors?
2006-08-11 20:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well maybe this will help? I don't think there is just one reason.
2006-08-11 20:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋