I have been at my present job for two years, and about eight months ago this guy i work with, starts to want to hang out he is way younger than me. I tryed to hook him up with someone else that i think looks better than me, but he didnt bite. An one night we were hanging out and he shows me a video on his phone of a girl giving him oral sex. Before then I had not said anything to him or anyone else in my life about me even thinking about giving oral sex, but that night he ask me if i would. And after some debate I did, and he has been in love with it ever sense. If I tell him I wont or cant do it he goes crazy an throws a fit. But a few months ago I told him that I wanted to have sex with him and he said no, that would not save sex again until he married. An to top in all off when I do give him oral sex we dont kiss and he does not touch me in any sexual kind of way. Whats going with this picture is there something that im missing. I know im cute because I get hit on all the time. HELP
2006-08-11 19:51:49 · 18 answers · asked by Sinamon L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're being used. If he has no romantic interest in you, or any kind of interest relationship wise, other than you giving him head; you're being used. I'm guessing you know this already, but holding out to see if more comes of this? Not unless you force it. And do you really want to be with someone that you have to force into a romantic/sexual relationship. It doesn't sound like he'd go for it anyways. Right now, you're good for casual conversation and a ******** to him. Cut him off. If I were you I'd forget about him altogether, but at the very least cut him off from oral and see what happens.
2006-08-11 19:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who will take advantage of any situation, no matter the cost to whomever else is involved...that my dear, is who you are involved with. Don't mistake his rejecting you as anything to do with you personally. You have been giving him a great deal of pleasure, while apparently holding on to the idea that some day maybe he'll "come around", get with the program and see how worthy you are of his affections. It will never happen with this a**hole. He will probably be this way the rest of his life, selfish and manipulative with whomever he becomes involved with, as this comes from a lack within himself...again, nothing to do with you. I'm sure you are very cute in many ways, so don't hang on to this guy like he's the last choice that's out there!!! No one should be put through what you've been going through. Also, as soon as you end it with this guy (please let it be soon) don't be surprised if he pursues you...insecure jerks like that (no matter how else he may act, there's some insecurity going on there) usually can't stand rejection, so he may keep coming back a few times...ignore it! He won't change, he's just wanting to make sure you are still hot for him. If he just goes on his own way, be glad and feel sorry for the next poor girl (victim) that gets in his way. Good luck, you deserve so much better than this...try and learn from this so you can see the red flags next time a jerk starts waving them around in front of you.
2006-08-12 09:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by AMac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sinamon,
He does not love you and is only using you. Wake up and smell the flowers girlfriend. This relationship is dead. you just won't admit it.
What is the test if a guy loves a girl? ? ? If you stop having sex and he gets mad. That means he does not love you and is using you and he may even hurt you. I am way yonger than you but i Know when a guy really loves a girl. He just wants you for the oral.
and what is really sorry about this whole thing is that he does not even like you as a person.
Stop the oral and see what he does. Then contact me. I love being told I was right.
Your Friend,
Tomz
2006-08-11 20:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tom Z 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're being used. It's his right to not have sex, but he's not even giving you oral. He's only with you because you give him oral and he doesn't have to do anything. You may be cute, but who cares? You're letting this guy walk all over you. Have some respect for yourself and stop all contact with him besides what you need to do for work.
2006-08-11 19:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I somewhat have an identical prob with my boyfriend and function spoken approximately it as quickly as and he's asserted he will do it extra yet he would not... besides. Your boyfriend is being very egocentric. it rather is not in basic terms take take take up a relationship, you need to provide too, and that's some thing you may desire to tell him. tell him you do not think of it rather is honest which you provide him oral and he would not provide it back and clarify that it rather is particularly hurtful. additionally, i could lay off giving him oral till he provides it, you will def see him do it extra then! Haha.
2016-10-01 23:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving it to him, even if he throws a fit. You should be the manipulator in the relationship. If other guys are hitting on you, go out with them.
2006-08-15 05:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting used by a dog and you need to just stop this now so you can regain some of your self-respect!!! No man should get a free bj anyways, they're not worth it.
Besides that, if someone at work found out, you could get in trouble depending on their policy.
2006-08-11 19:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by lilith4507 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is using u 4 his satisfaction just dump him dear .he thinks u r n use n throw thing sweety.i m telling u this as a friend
2006-08-11 20:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by taniya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is using you don't give him oral again because im sure that he is getting it elsewhere too. protect yourself. you are worth more thatn that and you should be with someone who will respect you.
2006-08-11 19:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First mistake never date someone you work with.
He is using you for your apparently "Good Head"
Stop now!
2006-08-11 19:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋