is it just my relationship with my husband or are all men this way?

Question

in the beginning they listen and talk to you and act all interested and want to spend time with you. Then as time goes by you don't talk anymore and he acts nice and interested in you right before he trys to get sex or are there men that stay affectionate and talkative way into the relationship or is that just a tactic at the begining of a relationship to get in our pants then later you all become boring and almost mute??? or is that just my husband

Answer 1

Nah, honey... I've been married 16 years, and my baby is the bomb!!! I still wanna hold, kiss, listen, rub her feet, back, and anything she wants me to rub. Actually sometimes I feel like I don't do enough to deserve her.
It's a two way street, but sometimes we men can be assholes!

Answer 2

My husband gets all distant at times, but not all the time. He does it when he's stressed out about work, or other issues. I wouldn't say he's talkative and affectionate only when he wants sex either.

Are you giving him your full attention though? You can't expect him to meet you halfway, you have to go all the way to his side. Plan things for the 2 of you to do together. If you're sitting in front of the TV, turn it off and take a walk together. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work, and it's work, it's not a piece of cake!

If you feel you have given this a decent shot, have talked to him about this, and still are getting no where with him on this subject, then I'd recommend seeing a counselor who can possibly help you guys.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Think about it. You have exchanged all information available about yourselves. The daily grind sets in and you have to work, work, work. Life grinds all of us down. This is why people have hobbies and other interests. We can't sit and coo at each other forever. You might try and develop other interests or hobbies that you both like and can work on together. Cars, guns, furniture refinishing, riding horses, 4-wheelers, sky diving; but don't forget that the difference between the sexes is also that which attracts. Viva la difference.

Answer 4

Have u tried communicating with yr husband? have u told him what u are telling all of us now? Try yr husband first. Try to make yr marriage work. If have such a negative view of a person u choose to be a life partner, how will u suceed in any relationship, assumimg u divorce him. Also try to look into yourself. R u yourself as interesting as u used to be? Or have u just let yourself go, mentally and physically?

Answer 5

do you really understand men lady? cause it sounds like your just husband bashing like so many women do because the can't understand there men. here's a clue men are not women and women can careless what a man needs or wants from a woman because according to women's lib men are not needed. withhold the sex and make him solve all you little problem then make listen to all the gossip you come up with, then just cut his balls off and make him ware a skirt because what you really want is another girl friend to talk to and not a man. right?

Answer 6

This is the relationship with you as husband sometimes behave like this. They know that she is my wife and she can be used every night. Whereas before marriage or shortly after marriage husband tries to behave very gently to win the heart of their wives. The othe persons or men, they are attracted towards you as they want to come close with you and do the in heart desire to having sex with you. So t hey behave differently from your husband.

Answer 7

nope mine acts the same way...lol....but i have told him and told him you need to pay more attention and show more affection to me on a daily basis not just when you want something and i gave him plenty of time to change and he didnt so i packed up my son while he was asleep last week and went to my moms...he was standing on my moms porch beating on the door at 6 am the next morning... lol....he said why are you here and i said cause you dont listen to me and you say you will change and you never do and you take me for granted....well ill tell you what the last week of my life has been the best week in the eleven years we have been together....i say give him a reason to change and prove to him that your a da*Mn serious or he will conntinue to take advantage of the situation....good luck

Answer 8

chicanoboi
Level 1

there is no such thing as true love .... people get merried for one of the 3 reasons. 1 . to have sex 2.to raise kida or 3 so they wont live a lonely life

Answer 9

Marriage is a two-way street. You get out of it what you put into it. You have to think of things to keep him interested. Spice it up a little bit, girl! Do some of the things you did when you were trying to hook him.

Answer 10

Many men are that way. But if you have been with your hubby for awhile try variety to spice up your relationship. Be honest and up front with him. Tell him exactly what you want and ask questions.