One year away from sex!?

Question

Last night i was talking with some friends of mine. while talking and joking i realised that i havent had sex for about a year now!! o_O it didnt matter alot when i didnt think about it....but now i sort realised....'man! A Year!?'

Now i dont wanna go out and act like a desprite loser..... any helpful hints on how i should face this situation without looking like a total idiot?

Answer 1

Y'know, it's kinda funny how the females reply that it's no big deal, or that a year isn't that long, or that you shouldn't feel like a loser for not having sex for so long. Of course they would think that way, because sex is different for women than it is for men. If she dated a guy that turned out to be disaster, she'd actually feel better about it if she never slept with him.

It's easier for a woman to turn down sex because she get offers all the time... whether she knows it or not! For a lot of guys, they have to take what they can get. There's exceptions to every case of course, but women tend to focus more on a relationship while men focus more on the sex.

With that said, you should be proud that you lasted a year without thinking about sex, because that's what usually gets us guys in trouble! Instead of thinking about your unintentional celibacy, think about what you were doing during that time. You probably found whole new ways to entertain yourself; and you might have had less anxiety because your weren't out there trying to get some.

Be yourself and enjoy life... sex will come eventually, and will probably be with somebody you really like... making it that much better.

Answer 2

Dude, y r u trippin over this? That's good u haven't had sex in a year man! with all these STDs running around u should save what u have until u get married, or at least until u find the 1 that u really care about and trust. Ur focusing on the wrong thing here. It shouldn't be going "OMG i'm gonna look like a loser." U should be patting urself on the back n sayin "yeah, it's been a year since i've been keeping it in my pants." U might be getting a little older. The older ur mind gets, the better choices ur tool below the belt makes. Think about it, n then be happy about it.
Peace n Love......

Answer 3

It didn't bother you before. Don't let the realization push you into doing something stupid. The right partner will come along. I went without almost 2 years once. Didn't want to do it with losers. Instead I focused on other aspects of my life. This way I went from one good boyfriend to the next 2 years later. Now, I must add it wasn't easy since I'm a highly sexual person. But I survived and now I have a sex god for a boyfriend, as well as a nice supportive person.

Answer 4

On two different occation in my life, I went a year without sex. The first time I did freak out and started acting like a loser. The second time I was smarter. I just started working on it little bits at a time instead of trying to hang all over and stalk one single girl, inevitably ruining it, and looking like a loser in the process. Instead you should just keep it light with several girls, and don't be afraid to call up an old fling (even if you never slept with her) or an old friend. Before you know it, you'll have to choose who to have sex with on certain nights.

Answer 5

You don't have to have sex just because its been a long time. No offense but that's pointless. It will happen when it happens. If you were ok w/ it before why can't you be ok w/ it now? The only way you'll prevent acting like a "desperate looser" is if u stop being desperate. I know ur a guy and u don't exactly think w/ ur head all the time, especially when it comes to sex, but just try for once to think w/ ur head and if u want sex then go get a hooker or something, but I think you'll be fine. good luck

Answer 6

Are you wearing a sign that says...Haven't had sex in a year? Who's going to know if you don't tell them?

Unless you drool over every female you see, I don't think you'll be id'd as a desperate loser..or a loser of any kind.

Be yourself, it's honest and hey! If she doesn't like the real you, how long can you pretend?

A year isn't a long time to go without sex, I don't think there's an expiration date...lol.

Answer 7

The Wisconsin girl gave you an excellent answer. You are not a loser. With all the stuff going around, disease-wise, and if you are lucky not to get one, theres always the risk or pregnancy. Yea, like she said...too much emphasis on the act of making love. Don't do it for the act....make it a part of the love you have for them and are willing to share with them.

Answer 8

If you dwell on the length of time it has been since you had sex then you are focusing on the wrong areas. As you get older, your desire for frequent and regular sex weakens and that's not necessarily a bad thing. You are being more selective now. You should focus on that. Choosing a good person for you to have sex with.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Continue not to think about it till you find the right person to share it with if your in the heat of the moment like you tend to be you dont seem to think about the things that really matter the most all you really care about is that your friends are haveing sex and you dont want them to look or treat you any differently...

Answer 10

whatta wanna know?

it's been 6 months for me

just because you aren't having sex doesn't mean that your a loser.

people now a days put TOO much emphasis on having sex. what it should be doing is putting emphasis on morals.