Sista to Sista, black women can you answer my questions?

Question

I am a black woman. Very proud, love my heritage. Everyday I hear stereotypes about us. They say that we are loud, obnoxious, argumenative. My question is, as a sistah how are you showing the world that these stereotypes are just that?

Answer 1

I choose to prove the stereotypes wrong by:

By getting straight A's and being successful in all my academic and career goals.
By following through with personal commitments.
By not judging anyone else but myself.
By giving sound advice when asked, and not cynical criticism.
By being honest in all things.
By knowing that there's a difference between a female and a woman, and being the best woman I can be.
By respecting myself to become a wife first and then a mother instead of a unwed single parent.
By knowing that it's not the man I marry but the one I choose to start a family with that I should worry about and the man must be one in the same.
By knowing that a statistic doesn't define me.
By allowing my positive actions speak louder than any words spoken from my mouth.
By using wisdom and discretion in all aspects of my life.
Being proud of who I am.
By saving twice as much as I spend and investing in sound things.
By being grateful of the progress in my life yet not forgetting where I came from.
By knowing that beauty I skin deep, but ugly is to the bone.
By knowing that the most I can do in life is inspire others to achieve greatness, because in order for someone to change they must first have the will to do so.
By knowing that good health and wealth should be something earned for myself and not to attract or appease others.
By knowing in order to be happy in life I must first be happy with myself.
By never being arrogant but confident always.
By knowing that not everyone sees everyone as a biased stereotype. Appreciating those who don't and challenging the thought process of those that do on how they see our culture and humanity abroad.
By knowing that every stereotype I discredit I'm capable of allowing others to see the lies each generalization holds.
By encouraging my struggling sisters and being proud of the strong ones who are living life as they should.

Answer 2

I am a white girl, and all I have to say is that I am absolutely appalled at the ignorance, stupidity, and stereotypical views that members of my own race have towards black people. I'm beginning to feel ashamed of being white, and I'm sorry that you've had to deal with this for so long--- I know how hard it must be for you. But I think that you should continue to do what you're doing-- be very proud of who you are and where you came from, and make sure that you tell anyone who makes a negative comment about you to go f*** themselves!!!! And that goes for the people who try and stereotype you, too---cuz I was reading your question, and I read the part about how people say that u guys are loud and obnoxious, and it just made me laugh.... I work in a huge facility where I come in contact with maybe one hundred people per day, and from my experiences, it's usually the white girls that are the loudest and the most obnoxious ones, though those characteristics aren't limited to race---we ALL can be this way!!!! So stay strong, and keep doin' your thang, girlfriend--- and like I said, try to ignore idiots and their f***** up point of views!!

Answer 3

I went to college where there was a large number of black women. Some of them where very loud and obnoxious. I also have a tendency to study people and I find some black people living the stereotypes. Like all people, not everyone fits into the same stereotype rolls.

Answer 4

I'm not a black woman; I'm white. From experience, most black women I have been around for a period of time, has eventually been loud, obnoxious, and very argumennative. The black women I've been around, not all, but the biggest part of them, has always acted as though they were better, always acted as though I owe them something, always wanted to be heard above everyone, and always on the defensive side. Why do you think black women have this kind of stereotype about them? It is because black women have gave themselves that stereotype somewhere along the line!!!! Like I said, not all black women, but most of them. Most just ruin it for the few who are actually not that way!

Answer 5

I am also very proud of my heritage and I love who I am...A Black Woman! I don't conduct myself in any of the stereotypical ways mentioned. The way I carry myself exudes the total opposite of these stereotypes. I should be judged according to my character, not an ignorant generalization/stereotype! I am a lady and I carry myself as such, at all times! I've surprised a few people because of this very subject...I wasn't the stereotypical Black Woman that I was expected to be!

Answer 6

I don't think any race has to prove anything! There has always been and always will be people who stereotype races. We have to accept this so we can move on. If people cannot accept people for who they are, then they are the ignorant ones. I go by the saying "treat people as they treat you". No race is an exception. Its simple......if you are nice to me, I will be nice to you. If you choose not to be nice to me I can return the favor. The problem in this world is that people emphasize too much on the faults of people. Instead, if we just tried to get along this world would be a happier place to live. There is good and bad in EVERY race, no one being worse than the other.

Just continue to be who you are. Be proud of who you are. But don't do it because you want to show people that you are not the typical stereotype. Then you will be a phony. Just be yourself, and if others don't like it, its their issue, not yours.

Answer 7

I'm not black and not female, but I have an answer anyway. You can show people you are not an example of a stereotype by not living as that stereotype. If you do not want to be considered loud, obnoxious and argumentative then simply do not allow yourself to be loud, obnoxious and argumentative. Speak and write more clearly than your accusers. Demonstrate superior self discipline by not taking their bait when they try to suck you into an argument. When they are loud, speak softly. When they are rude, be polite. When they are argumentative, let their words slide off you with a polite acknowldgement that they spoke like "I appreciate your thoughts, thank you for sharing."

They'll go nuts and those around you will see you as the one with dignity and composure.

Answer 8

If your so proud of your heritage then why is your avatar not of the black race?

And it is not just black women that are stereotyped as such.

I'm of Irish decent and get told all the time that "we" are fiery, obnoxious, demanding etc
Women who are Italian are told that they are loud, obnoxious, very argumentative etc.

What gets me is when a particular race starts making assumptions that everyone is out for them, everyone is picking on them just because of their race.
That is exactly what causes all the hate crimes in the United States.

Live your heritage, be proud of it and just leave it alone.
But do not accuse the other races of trying to stereotype you just because you are black.

It is not true, it is factless and it just an EXCUSE.

Answer 9

Pretty much by acting myself. Using correct grammar and not be all about the hollering and yelling all the time. But I do totally agree with Neonfeminist, do get accused of acting white. But I really don't care. I know what I'm about, so either way I'm not going to fufill the stereotypes or let others think they can effect me by saying I'm acting white because I actually use the education I have.

Answer 10

I'm 16 and black and so frickin proud man! But anyways I here all types of stereotypes like black people don't swim and black people are ignorant! Everybody always look at the negative side at our culture! We are so much more than that! just look at the positive side and you will understand why we as people are so damn proud of being black and being proud of our culture! We have so many talents and we like to show and share it to the world! but some people don't appreciate that for some reason! But if you ever hear any stereotypes about black people: here is one word of advice: TELL THEM TO GO TO HELL AND WHAT THEY ARE SAYING IS NOT TRUE YOU PATHETIC LITTLE...Just be you and stay true to yourself! Love ya lots!

Answer 11

Actions speak louder than words. Daily I am humble, walking with GOD, doing my best to help others and to promote world peace. Yes, I run into "haters" naysayers, complainers, gossipers, etc. However, I have "learned" not to be a part of this. With my growth in the LORD and studying the Bible, reading, praying daily, and encouraging others....I walk the walk of a Christian (at least that's what I am trying to do daily). I attend church services as often as possible...seeking more guidance and direction for my life. I have developed a "personal relationship" with GOD, and I try to stay pleasant most of the time.

Yes, I am human, I do have emotions, and I do get angry, discouraged, frustrated, and disappointed. However, these are my person feelings, and I "try" hard not to take them out on other people. I have developed a "reputation" as someone that that will help you, pray for and with you, and someone that is trust worthy. It's not easy...however, with GOD all things are possible.

Be blessed~