I tried to give her your previous advice and told her that as a weary wife, she should rejoice that she had time to weary in. He is a good man and the children are nice for the most part. I do not think I can play the annonymous note dropper, so should I tell him straight out and risk her denial. ?
Rose P.
2006-08-11 18:09:28 · 11 answers · asked by rose p 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I shold add that I have recently "recovered" from major affective disorder caused by my darling Gwen's family bigoted treatment of us, especially after her death.
Rose P.
2006-08-12 16:24:28 · update #1
What you need to do is help the woman seek out counseling - she is obviously suffering from depression and feeling overwhelmed - this is not a good state of mind to be in - I think that you should alert the husband that his wife is experiencing some serious emotion well being issues and suggest that he help get her the support that she needs at this time - this is not a matter to be taken lightly - I know because at times I am often overwhelmed by the demands of my family and just want to walk away and keep going and never look back - which in those times guilt just about eats me alive because I LOVE my family so much but there is only 1 of me and 5 of them all wanting something from me and I can't meet everyone's demands - I got a book from the library the other day called Pleasers by Dr. Kevin Logan suggest that she reads it because it helps you learn how to deal with changing your behavior of trying to please and satisfy the needs of everybody all the time. Hope this helps
2006-08-11 18:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a deal. go 1/2 of the time or on particular events. you would possibly want to no longer experience compelled to pass each and every of the time. If he's purely going to play playing cards, then why do you would possibly want to be stuck with all his relations. in case you defined to him why you don't love being there, then he might want to understand. i imagine it is intense yet did not you comprehend his conduct previously you've been married? i ask your self in case you predicted him to regulate once you married him. i imagine couples favor some time except for an additional too, so that you ought to tell him that he can do his relations social gathering and also you'll do some thing else you want. Its like adult men have their evening out and women have their own, except that he's jointly with his relations. desire you the great!
2016-11-29 23:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. This woman is holding on to some major anger... and with a statement like that, I'm sure the fam has to have some inclination that she's miserable. I would make her be the one to tell them- if she's unhappy, it's her place to be the bearer of bad news, and she needs to learn to articulate those feelings to the spouse instead of bottling them up. I would encourage her to sit the family down and get it out in the open, and get some professional help to get it straightened out.
2006-08-11 18:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by umicantgetaname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't see your previous question, but I remember feeling this way a few years ago. I think she is being emotionally abused and/or is depressed. Since we divorced (read: since I got away from being abused) and I was successfully treated for depression, I no longer feel that way and in fact rarely even lose my temper.
2006-08-11 18:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and mind your own business. Remember do not tread where angels fear to cross between a man and a woman. Let this woman deal with her own demons.
2006-08-11 18:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's just channeling her frustrations to her family. If I were you, a person with that kind of problem doesn't really want to do it, so just be there for her. All people appreciate someone who listens to them intently and postponing judgement. So be there for her, she'll appreciate it more.
2006-08-11 18:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by psyche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him. do you want feel guilty if innocent ppl die because of her unhappiness. i would not say rejoice that you have time to be weary, i would say seek help or get away from those you claim to love (or loved)
2006-08-11 18:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by robyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An annonymous message is not the best idea, you should talk to her straight to her.
2006-08-11 18:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him....but ask him to approach her in love, and that he is concerned about how she feels. He needs to know to be able to protect their children and her from herself. Good Luck and God bless you for your courage.
2006-08-11 18:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel bad if she killed him and the kids?
The answer is obviously yes....so say something.
2006-08-11 18:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋