If God didn't want me to have premarital sex , then why do i want it so bad ?

Question

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I am 14 and am a strong christian but one of the hardest things is not to lust and not to wanna have pre-martial sex, i read all the posts of why premartial sex is bad but if so why did GOD make it so that i want it this much at such an immature age? What do you think ?

10 POINTS

Answer 1

James 1:13-15 "Let no man say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God, for God can't be tempted by evil, and He Himself tempts no one. But each one is tempted, when he is drawn away by his own lust, and enticed. Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin; and the sin, when it is full grown, brings forth death."

God did not make or invent premarital sex. God ordained sex as a wonderful thing to be shared and enjoyed between a husband and wife. Satan perverted God's plan and tempted man to commit all sorts of sexual immorality. You said it correctly when you admitted that one of the hardest things for you is not to lust. Because that's what it is, LUST.

What I can only suggest to you (as one who went through what you're going through, and is constantly trying and struggling not to fall again) is walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the desires of the flesh. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Answer 2

This is an area a struggled with a lot when I was your age.

The answer to your question is like any sin you are trying to fill a legitimate need in the wrong way. The biggest problem is lust full thoughts, our society is set up to flood you with lust enticing images every day this causes your mind to think about sex more often and creates a snow ball effect.

The bottom line is you can train yourself to think this way less.

When you have thoughts about sex try thinking about something else, when the hot girl goes by look the other way instead. And all though it sounds hokey JUST SAY NO to sexual thoughts. You won't always succeed but if you keep trying you'll get better at it.


As far as premarital sex, make sure any girls you date on the same page as you and set boundaries way before Sex. If you're dating a girl that doesn't want to set boundaries or doesn't seem to keep them serious break it off. I know it's hard to do in the moment but you will be better off in the long run.


And the last thing to remember sex really isn't that big of a deal, it's nice but it's not the wonderful thing you might imagine.

Answer 3

Would you believe that at one time age 14 was a common time to marry. God did make us the way we are and the notion that premarital sex is bad is more of a social law. I am not saying that it is okay to have sex at age 14. In the World today you have a life expectancy or say 80 years and there is plenty of time to explore this aspect of life. Don't rush into sex just for social pressure there may be a day when you are in love and have found a mate for life. This is the best time.

Answer 4

You seem like a smart kid. Sometimes even the smartest people make mistakes. This is one mistake you don't want to make. Wait just a few years until you are at least legal. Some would say, wait until 16, so you are able to get a job if you get a girl pregnant. The reason why you think you want that now is definately your hormones. At this point they are out of control. If you are smart you will keep yourself in control. You do not want to start having sex too soon, because when you are about 30 you are not going to find pleasure from just Normal sex. You will get bored and start wanting stuff you might have seen in a porn film. Woman are not really like that and they don't want a husband to treat them like objects. Take the time now to just be doing things that are constructive with your time , like learning . Don't waste your young teenage years chasing girls. You will be busy enough with that in just a few short years. Now is the time to research the kind of girl you wish to spend time with. Like just being friends and talking to girls is one way. I don't see anything wrong with just holding hands and polite kisses. For now. As far as the topic of God and premarital sex goes, Men wrote the Bible, not God. I do want you to know I am also a Christian. I think when you are older and start thinking about being with a girl, before you get married you will want to know if you are sexually compatible with her. Also, it is a good idea to sow some wild oats before you get married. Which means , you don't want to get married and not had any fun in your life. If so , you may end up regretting it or worse cheating on your wife. That is my 2 cents.

Answer 5

At 14 you should not be thinking about sex, moreso you said you are a strong christian which I doubt,otherwise you will not blame
GOD for your desire which I believe is not difficult for you to control.Forget about premarital sex and face more challenging and rewarding desires such as your educational career,sports and so many interesting games.Your immediate answer is to avoid idleness and bad company for a change because an idle mind is a devils workshop.Wish you good luck.

Answer 6

i think, since you asked... that fourteen is not an age appropriate to worrying about sex. i think that the media we are beaten with daily is pushing this sexuality thing way to far and asking way too much of our young. the Universe, i believe, did not intend on humans procreating at 12, 13, 14 years of age. we are not mentally capable of being the best providers we can be physically and emotionally to the fruit of our loins while still at such tender ages ourselves.

now with that having been said, if you should so choose to take on such an awesome responsibilty be sure to speak with a trust worthy adult who can give you the facts and truth, not some scare tactic speech, about what sort of commitment you are making.

Answer 7

You are being driven by your hormones. Which is not surprising: that is what they are for -- to assure reproduction and the survival of the species. As for what god might want, if you can find an error-free text which is verifiably from god, and it addresses your point, you may be guided by it. However, the bible, which contains hundreds of errors (as well as dozens of internal contradictions), does not qualify. So, if you can find a willing partner, and take appropriate precautions to prevent an unwanted pregnancy (or, these days, to prevent the spread of disease), you will have no complaint from me. BUT, I note your age: you are too young to legally be able to consent to sex (at least in the United States). You need to wait until you (and your partner) are at least 16. So, for the next two years, get to know members of the opposite sex, and by the time you are 16, you may have found one suitable to take to bed. And, by that time, you will have time to consider all the implications of sex, in terms of commitment, emotional involvement, and all the other complications that make human sexuality so complex -- and so interesting.

Answer 8

There are rational, practical reasons for postponing sex. These include pregnancy and STDs, but also include your capacity for processing such intimacy into a relationship.

When the Bible was written, the main concern was pregnancy, as females had no civil rights at that time and were valued for their chastity. I doubt God really cares if you have sex, he didn't stop the Holocaust and is probably more concerned with happenings in another dimension.

Answer 9

Altho I'm not familiar with the Holy Bible, as well as God's Ten Commandments, my understanding of "Thou shall not commit adultery." would include, you must not commit pre-marital sex. In other words, if you commit pre-marital sex, you are in direct violation of God's Commandment. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong about the Commandment. However, you as a Christian should understand this better.

I strongly discourage you to engage in sex, especially at your age. Discipline yourself. Make what you believe work. It's entirely you who can control yourself from committing it -- resist the devil, young man.

Answer 10

Temptation. Why does god allow us to kill each other if it is a sin? why does he allow any sin? If he is all powerful, then why not do away with that which he does not desire? Because he wishes to tempt us. if we follow his word, we go to heaven, but if we give into the temptation, we are sent to hell. This of course raises the question: "why does he want to test us?" Why bother? Why does he give us choices and tests and trials and temptation? why does he want us in heaven? If he wants us in heaven, why put us on earth in the first place? Why put us on earth and test us?

This of course, is all if you believe there is a god. The ultimate question is, "is there?"