As we both are married with kids we could not pursue it further. He decided to move to another country with his family. After three years of no contact I got his email Id and sent him a mail. He was very thrilled to receive my mail and said it was okay to have a good platonic friendship with no meeting or talking. I agreed and we have carried on a good 3 year friendship only through emails. Of late we have been getting slightly emotional and send each other poems or songs and sign off in loving terms. There is a certain warmth and care which is subtle. If I dont send an email for a long time he asks if everything is okay. I also think a lot about him and all the sweet messages we exchange. He also says that my emails give him happiness and he wants a long term relationship. He even asked for my photos which I sent. He complimented me. Is he getting emotionally involved? Where are we headed?
2006-08-11 17:51:31 · 12 answers · asked by woman28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think yall both kinda like each other and enjoy each others compassion, but i really dont think yall would date each other, but physicians r typically nice like doctors, i wouldnt worry about yall becoming anything else except good friends, and its ok to flirt a little but its nuthin too big to worry about at all, i mean do u picture urself being with him or ur husband, that right there will answer ur question
2006-08-11 17:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by wolfmdogg 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've gotten emotionally invested in this relationship. Are you reading more into this than is really there? Did he or you ever have an actual discussion about the possibility of entering into a forbidden love affair? I assume that you have told your husband that your in contact, right? If not, you owe the spouse at least that much honesty, cause you have just posted that information on the web to a bunch of strangers, which is odd to me if you haven't even talked to the man you married. Are you happy or truly unhappy in your marriage? Give the issues some thought. Your so-called platonic relationship may interfere with your plans, the ones you have made with your partner/kids. You should probably be seeking some professional consultation if you are serious about remaining devoted to your marriage and to your children. You could cause a lot of heart-ache if you get more seriously involved. Lastly, don't forget that if you and the doc get together, neither of you will be able to trust the other since you would have both left a marriage to be with someone else - and that could happen to either of you again (it's easy to do it a second time, and even easier a third). Be careful and best of luck. I hope that you find yourself, either way.
2006-08-12 01:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by ; - } 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't healthy. The two of you need to take a break from contacting each other, as it's growing emotionally.
Focus on your own marriages. Find out if it's time to end it, not for the sake of some potential love, but because it really is beyond repair. Find out if maybe there's just some spice missing. Maybe the missing you and wondering what's wrong after a few days is something you wished your husband would do? Sounds like it's time for some counseling.
This is dangerous territory. The guy obviously has some boundary issues if he didn't immediately send you to another doctor the moment he knew he had a crush on you. His ethics were blurred somehow. He isn't being emotionally faithful to his wife. He probably sees you as an escape from his real life and some care-free excitement, seeing as he's got so much responsibility.
It's not fair to either of you or your spouses to continue to talk to each other without telling the whole truth. This lie is going to plant a terrible seed and the whole thing will blow up in your face unless you're completely honest and stop playing childish games.
2006-08-12 01:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are both headed for trouble! my parents divorced because of this very same reason: my mother got smitten from some other guy...and it totally ruined their marriage. i would definitely reconsider all the things in your life so far, especially your family. do you have children? are you happy with your husband? if there is seriously nothing wrong with the relationship you are in now, then stop the internet flirting immediately. perhaps your marriage has gotten dry, so a little bit of noticing from another person is making you feel better about yourself. but really, if this person is in another country, i doubt things will ever get that serious.
please do not let it go any further. i really dislike it when someone tosses everything away for a crush.
2006-08-12 00:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by curious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! don't let this recent development ruin such a nice warm friendship. If u let it, I'm afraid it can get very complicated and messy and u mite finally lose control, emotionally! N think! would it b worth it? Take care
2006-08-12 00:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE ABOUT TO CHEAT!!! C'mon be honest with yourself.
1. You dont love your husband
2. You love your children
3. BUT you are falling for your physician
Not only is he getting emotionally involved but SO ARE YOU
Truth hurts, but it needs to get told
2006-08-12 00:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you being stupid?
One rule of sisterhood is to not get involved with a man that belongs to someone else!
You will have repurcussions for doing this!
What goes around, definitely comes around....
2006-08-12 00:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like things aren't going well with your hubby. Have you gone to counseling? Is it a complete failure? Find happiness for yourself but don't crush other people. It's bad KARMA, dude.
2006-08-12 00:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by pullmyfinger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about him.. but you are headed for heartbreak... you see.. you already are having dreams .. thoughts about you two being together.. and since YOU looked HIM up.. you made it obvious that you want more.. and he is a man.. always up for more.. you are having an emotional affair and you want it.. but trust me.. he will break your heart..
2006-08-12 00:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't hold my breath in a long distance thing!
It's fantasy for both of you
2006-08-12 00:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋