I wanted to thank those of you who answered my question "unhappy with husband" all of you told me to leave him, but with 3 young kids I coun't just up and leave so I did the next best thing, I made him go. He can't come to my house, work, or school and he can't call me either.Plus he can't visit the kids until we see a judge in a couple weeks
2006-08-11 17:48:15 · 16 answers · asked by funnychic30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bravo baby!! Good Luck with this new chapter of your life!! It will be WELL worth it!! Be prepared for when he comes back begging...promising to change,,Throwing the "what about the kids" bullshit in your face...THEY ALL DO THIS! You and the kids will be much better off without him...and the kids will finally see their mother for what she truly is...a happy and strong independent woman!! What better role model can a child have??? Good for you!!! and.. if you ever need a pep talk...you know where to find me. I'm so proud of you!! Peace!! Good things are ahead of you.
2006-08-11 17:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you can't just up and go. so you made him go? I wish i got in on chapter 1,cause i would have liked to have given you some advice before you made him leave his kids. was there abuse of any kind? cheating? was he at least a good father? i am sorry i didn't get all the info maybe next time.....
sounds like you did this for you, have you thought about your kids, is this best for them? do you really have to break up the father child relationship? so many women kick the father to the curb with out thinking of the kids and whats best for them, i hope you thinking of then too. but like i said, I don't have all the info, so hope you did the right thing. error on the side of safety for the kids I say.
2006-08-12 00:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people always think it's easiest to just leave a relationship but alot of couples share assets and children. It is often difficult to divide up those things and come to a compromise. Many women I know can't support themselves and the children living apart from the spouse even with child support. I think this is why some people resort to infidelity because they can go outside the marriage without the complication or repercussion of a divorce. Best wishes to you!
2006-08-12 00:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you realy dont want to keep the kids away from the father, if anything you both should agree on shared custody. you dont want the kids to have a big ajustments in life. they will be full of why questions. I have been in different homes and i never knew my parents. so the best thing to do is for the both of you to sit down together the both of you and your three kids and let them know that you both love them all and that you both have differances and that its not there fault . that its both of your disions and that there dad will be seeing them that he is not going away for ever, that he will always be there even though he is not living in the same house as them. you shouldnt have to take it to court you might end up hurting yourself and him and most of all thr kids. the kids comes first no matter what. think of them and how its going to aflect them.
2006-08-12 01:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by navajonationlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations for taking this very bold step in the rite direction. U r v brave n I admire u. am not sure I'd dare do same were I in yr shoes!! Good luck for the future, hope he doesn't give u 2 much static and hope God will protec u and yr kids!
2006-08-12 00:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for your kids, divorce hurts. Can you compromise with eachother and do what they need be there for them without them being unhappy. You loved eachother enough to make them. I would stay together and work hard for them. Good luck to you.
2006-08-12 01:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well U Answered Your Own Question No doubt
2006-08-12 00:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, I am proud of you ... I know it is so very hard , I have had to do it too so I know.... but you will be happy again and really glad you did it for you and the kids..... "Every break up is one step closer to the one you are supposed to be with".... you just gotta give yourself a chance...... Good luck to ya.....
2006-08-12 00:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't answer your question, but reading the positive decision you took has made me feel uplifted. You have taken control of your life and I wish you the very best..
2006-08-12 00:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! but don't involve the kids in YOUR PROBLEMS, they have the right to see their father, (unless he is abusive or a criminal history). I don't know your story but pleeeaasse....don't punish your husband with your kids, that is just not fair.
2006-08-12 01:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋