Whenever I'm about to tell them; I suddenly start breathing heavy and my whole body starts to burn; and the words won't come out. How do I do it? Any advice?
2006-08-11 17:41:27 · 14 answers · asked by Someone u dont know 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, you do have a problem...with self image. I strongly suggest you keep this to yourself for the time being...until such time as you can take pride in who and what you are, no shame (nothing to be ashamed about in the first place, and being Gay is not an issue). OF course, you could sit down at the dinner table, announce that you had seen a doctor today and have 3 months to live...you are dying of cancer. After the pall passes over the room, say, "Naw, I was kidding, I'm not dying, I'm just Gay." IF there reaction is, 'gee, I'd rather you were dying of cancer," then they have an issue. Good luck
2006-08-11 17:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It can be hard to "come out" to people. Wait until you are ready and know that you might get good, bad, or mixed reactions from family and friends. Know common questions people ask when you tell them like "are you sure" and have answers ready. Also know that it took time for you to come to terms with being gay so it will take some time for them to wrap their minds around it too, so give them that time. PFLAG's web-site has some good info on how to get ready before coming out to your parents. (I'll link it.) And OutProud's web-site has coming out stories you could read and the reactions they got. Have a plan but don't stress over it. What will be will be. I would tell them face to face though, better then a letter.
2006-08-12 01:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need advice, then you are not ready to tell them. I suggest finding a gf/bf first to be there for you. You can also use the hearsay approach. If you are out to others then just make sure the word gets around. It may sound cowardly, but there is a calmness to the whole situation because they have time to warm up to it before officially hearing it out of your mouth.
2006-08-12 02:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know JJ S--first of all congratulations, you're trying to take a very brave step...Maybe you could just write it down for them...or do you have to tell them all at once? Is there 1 member of your family it would be easier to tell and help you move from there. You will be okay...just do what you have to do...but it will get more difficult the more and more you dread it.....Good Luck...we've all been there...we understand.
YES and I would strongly recommend PFLAG..lots of really good people there....maybe you could talk to them first.
2006-08-12 01:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say it write it down. Putting your feelings down on paper will be a lot easier to do and once you've done that you can leave the note on your parents bed or somewhere they will find it and just leave the house. Turn off your cell phone or whatever and just go somewhere where you can be by yourself and think about things for a while and let things settle down at home.
2006-08-12 00:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by JR 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
when i came out i told a cousin first then it spread like wild fire , but was never mentioned to me, when i did tell my folks they said they have known for years , and they do so have a drink if your of age and just spit it out, its a momentary panic issue that will be over in the first hug.. by the way i come from a huge redneck family
2006-08-12 00:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always just spit out what I want to say. Once you say the first couple of words, it's really hard to pull back. Imagine if you tried to pull back: "Mom, Dad...I'm g-going to the store, wanna come with?"
2006-08-12 00:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when you are ready. Give your self all the time and education you need to be comfortable about it. You arn't working on a deadline here are you?
2006-08-12 00:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to not look at you differently, because you are still the same person, you just haven't been open about yourself.
2006-08-12 17:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the spoken word hinders you, write it.
Good luck with your family & friends.
2006-08-12 02:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋