Ok, I just got a great job not even a week ago and now my boyfriend is saying that I'm all about titles....well, if I weren't about titles I wouldn't have a good job. I love and confessed alot of things to my boyfriend about personal things in my life...now he's throwing everything up in my face, and using everything against me that I once told him.
At work I am very aggressive and assertive because I have to be to get the job done.....At home I'm totally different and now, he's telling me that I'm too submissive, and telling me that I think I'm better than everyone else, this is not true.....
Everything changed when I was promoted....Is he jealous of my career? why is he doing this to me?
2006-08-11 17:35:29 · 21 answers · asked by Ebonee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Congrat to you on your promotion..... and you ain't the one with the problem here.... he is.... some men don't handle it very well when there partners is doing better than them..... talk to him about his change in attitude and how you would have expected him to be supportive and happy for you.... most people are different at work..... and once again well done to you on your promotion..... hope it works out for you
2006-08-14 11:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Carlette D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a little jealous. Men think they should be the bread winners. My husband has a lot of disabilities and can only work part time. I often get little comments (from him) about how horrible he is and he can't make enough money for his family...I never say these things to him, it is only he who feels this way....
basically, I tell him to just be happy for goodness sake. I think it weighs on them too much. Its 2006...ya don't have to bow down to the man.....
2006-08-11 17:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by monkeedee2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend earns more than me and I think it's great after all we aren't in victorian times anymore and women do a lot more of the jobs generally regarded previously as mens work. If anyone works hard and fulfills all the goals they are set by employers they deserve any wage that is offered. By my girlfriend earning more than me it means we have better holidays and are able to save to buy a house of our own. To me it does matter how in earns the most as long as you love each other and are both working towards the same common goal in life, and your relationship. The important thing is to achieve things together its always harder when your working against each other. Oh and My G/F did by me an xbox with some of her bonus that helped me accept her wage increase, until she started beating me football. Good luck sure it will all work out
2016-03-16 21:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've worked too hard to take all this crap. You deserve your promotion and all that lovely money. Do you really want all that hassle when you get home? He's a whinger. He's jealous. He's a bully and a loser.
Ditch him, enjoy your job and your new-found freedom and find a real man who will be proud of you.
2006-08-12 22:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be jealous...sounds like he is insecure-a lot. he should support you getting promoted and that something like that is important to you...getting ahead and making more money, having more resposibilities. maybe he is not up to that task yet and wants to hold you back- not a good sign. and maybe when you get home, you are less dominate because you have had to be that way at work all day and would like to relax and be off point in a safe enviroment. and anyone who throws anything back in your face is very insecure with themselves and can not be trusted with your dreams or feeling, hint hint....
2006-08-11 17:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by baron b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad thing, but this guys pride is hurt. Don't forget, not long ago, women didn't earn the income and the guy brought in the bacon. He is probably a little old fashioned, but if he loves you, he'll get over it. The benefits do pay off in the long run to have two good wage earners, who cares who makes more, just don't rub it in his face and he'll live.
2006-08-11 17:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's insecure plain and simple..if u really love him and if he has been a very good boyfriend before these recent developments,sit him down and talk to him.explain how much he means to u and u respect him.tell him that ur promotion or earning more wont change things between u.even after all this if he remains adamant then say googbye for ur own good.
2006-08-11 20:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is jealous because he thinks you are better than him. Get rid of him and find someone who will be proud of you for what you have achieved - there are some good guys out there.
2006-08-11 20:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh oh! sounds like trouble. He now probably feels very threatened by your new status and financial standing. Find a subtle way to calm or, failing that dump him! From the experience of many of my other friends, I can tel u it's not going to b easy to solve this, unless you change jobs. Somehow most men feel very insecure when their partner earns more than them. Men have VERY DELICATE N BIGGG EGO Remember??
2006-08-11 17:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM--- u obviously are going to go places, why do u need a jealous whiny little brat like him? it's good his true colors are showing now, DUMP HIM concentrate on your work, since when does a woman need a man to make her whole?
once u are alone and can breathe again, the good guys will come along, just don't go looking for them, they'll find you...
2006-08-11 19:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋