My 14 year old started "going out" with this boy. Now, for all us old fogies, "going out" is just a term. LOL...they don't "go" anywhere. Anyways, they started going out one night, and then, he never called her. Weeks later, my daughter heard from this boy's cousin, and was told that he broke up with her because too many people knew they were "dating". I can't understand why he would be ashamed and not want people to know. My daughter on the otherhand can understand this behavior, and would probably consider "going out" with him again. What do YOU think, and PLEASE GIVE YOUR AGE. Thanks.
2006-08-11 17:34:20 · 17 answers · asked by da dude 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
15 male i have had a couple friends with this problem in the past and it usualy happens because of peerpresure, and from the looks of it this boy seems to think he calls the shots so dont let your daghter see him, because first this happens then drugs and then alchohal and so forth
2006-08-11 17:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by saxon 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm sixteen.
Personally? I think dating before you're sixteen (at very least) is stupid, because 99/100 times you're just going to break up anyhow. Because the story you just told is anything but uncommon.
It's common for a girl to overlook a case of the stupids if she has a crush on this guy.
He's an immature, fourteen year old boy.
Your daughter, mature as she may be for her age, still obviously isn't mature enough to want a real relationship, just a status thing, or OMGHESTOTALLYHOTTT. Also known as a crush :)
What she needs from you is your love and support, no matter what she does. (I'm NOT saying to tell her that you think it's okay to go back to the boy) but I'd say that if you're letting her date at fourteen, let her get her heart broken as well. Just be there for her if/when he dumps her again.
2006-08-12 00:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, when you're 14, "dating" (for lack of a better word) is not a good thing. Junior high & high school years are like living in a fishbowl, so obviously people know who is dating who. If this boy (a) was ashamed that people knew and (b) couldn't even say it to her face then he shouldn't be "dating" at all. I mean, I know at that age a lot of teens don't want to listen to their parents, but I think your daughter deserves a lot better.
As far as understanding, I think it just goes along with age. At that age, you're always trying to find out who you are. As you grow older you realize how futile everything like this in the big picture.
I'm 17, by the way.
2006-08-12 00:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think if he was ashamed of soo many people knowing that's dumb n she should never go out wit him again. SHe deserves a guy dat treats her good n dats not dumping her just kuz too many people know. I didnt start dating till i was 15 n i've only had one bf so far so maybe i dont noe too much but i think she's better off witout him n deserve someone else -n im 16yrz old.
2006-08-12 00:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by teengurl110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14:
I can totally relate, I am single and I totally understand the "going out" term..... well I would not go out if he broke up with me because too many people knew they were dating.. he is ashamed and does not deserve a NICE, SMART girl like your daughter, he is a jerk! Going out just means to be boyfriend and girlfriend put saying that is like so 70's and 80's...... anyways is she really can't take into terms that this guy is so not dseserving of her let her read this answer... she totally deserves someone that is to her level of what she thinks is a "perfect" BF... I wish the best of luck to you and your daughter.. let he go out with guys, not literally go out, but let her know what it is like to have to hold up with the responsiblities of having a BF and having to deal with school work and chores and friendships.... GOOOD LUCK!
⥠Lizzie(my parnets feel the same way) lol!
2006-08-12 00:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and i think your daughter is a little too young to be going out with boys, but anyways she needs some self esteem and to know she deserves better than some loser who couldn't realize how special she was...she doesn't need to waste her time on some boy who dumped her the 1st time...only to get dumped again the 2nd time around..save your kid the heartache and talk to her?!
2006-08-12 00:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Pinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Myself is 14 yrs old
it is a very complex system and it would take seconds for the whole school to find out if a single person knew...TRUST ME IT DOES. anyway who you date has a huge social impact so if the boy was very pop. and she was not (no offense) then he decided that it too would make him unpopular. Or, if his freinds did not think she was hot (no offense) then they probably pressured him to snap the chain. it could be any other thing these are just some examples of how high school is hell.
2006-08-12 00:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by spiderk132 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 this happened to me, a guy i technically wasn't going out with "dumped" me when my best friend found out we were a "couple" he asked me out that's it, nothing else we didn't even go. We are weird us kids, we don't really care if we get dumped as long as we were in a "relationship" i am past that level of maturity and now know that nothing was going on and i wouldn't date him again because if he is ashamed of me, I am sorry he missed out, tell your daughter that if a guy wants things to be a secret dump him first.
2006-08-12 00:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by hott_mandi42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i'm 25. I remember when I was 14 and no matter what a guy done to me or how he treated me, as long as he was the least bit interested i was in love. she will more than likely find another boy who is interested and forget about this jerk. I hope the best for you and your daughter.
2006-08-12 00:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the boy 14 as well?
2006-08-12 00:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Fox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋