he says he want the perfect wedding for us he doesnt want to go and have a cheap one.i also want a nice wedding but im with the man I live and I dont need all the glizs and glammer.All i wasnt is to be with him.A nice reception will be perfect but he's not buying it.WHAT DO U THINK IS THE HOLD UP?
2006-08-11 17:21:07 · 15 answers · asked by blaque 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe he's waiting to find the PERFECT time
2006-08-11 17:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he may trully want the perfect wedding for you guys but he is probably afraid of doing the actual act. I think this is a form of cold feet that he is going through. I mean the more he says the wedding is going to be so "big" and so "perfect" the more in his head he is probably translating that into being its going to be so big and perfect and its going to be forever and all my friends are going to see me make this forever commitment. Maybe she isn't the one for me and I would have wasted all that money on a big wedding and we get divorced 2 weeks later. So here is what I suggest you guys have a small wedding with just real close family and friends. But before you do that have a serious talk with him about any fears and doubts that he is havign about the ideal of being married to you.
2006-08-11 17:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being an older guy, I can tell you that a man is in no way, shape, or form, going to discuss marrige with any girl unless he is very serious about marrying her, Marrage scares the hell out of us, so if he is talking about it, just be patient and it will come, if you pressure him, you will scare him, and he may pull away. And belive it or not, once in a blue moon, we actually want everything to be perfect, because to us the more perfect it is, the less chance there is of the women saying no to us. Relax sweetie, it shouldn't be much longer.
2006-08-11 17:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will never be a perfect time..maybe he's concerned that things will change..sit him down and tell him that you would like a nice quiet wedding, small and intimate..because the day is not as important as the years that follow it..
2006-08-11 17:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Selena D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dont you think he needs to ask first in order for you guys to save money for this perfect wedding? Have you seen any money saved for your perfect wedding ? Also he might be comfortable 6yrs thats along time to be together and not married.
2006-08-11 17:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by NICE-1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not ready. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage; we know it is definitely a possibility in the future. I'm not pushing it because I don't want to rush him. When he's ready, he will ask.
If marriage is really important to you, you might want to sit down with him and gently ask him why he hasn't asked yet. Explain to him that the perfect wedding is not necessary. He might just be stalling because he's not ready for marriage yet. Then it's up to you whether you want to wait for him or find someone else who is more marriage-minded.
Take it from someone who's been there- marriage is less important than finding someone you want to be with for the rest of your life. Marriage is not necessary for happiness.
2006-08-11 17:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do have aproblem or he does this does not at all seem right.never heard aguy say he wants the wedding to be really nice and is waiting for it, and 6 yrs. I think I'd shake things up a bit and see what happens.
2006-08-11 17:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by ret w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is secretly saving for the wedding of your dreams lol. Normally, I would say it's because hemay not want to get married, but if he has said that he wants to, then he must want to marry you. Maybe he is just waiting for the perfect moment.
2006-08-11 17:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either he is not ready and he is using it as an excuse...
OR he really does want to make this perfect for you. He wants to show you how much he loves you. Maybe you could both meet in the middle somewhere?
2006-08-11 17:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just wants the wedding to be perfect. Once it is you'd be together! Remeber that Love is patient. Wait for it, love don't rush!
2006-08-11 17:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by Love or hate? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not ready yet.As soon as you two break up he's going to marry the very next chick he meets...that's just how men are.They settle down when they get that feeling...regardless of the woman.
2006-08-11 17:27:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋