My daughter is 20 and i've just learned to shut up for fear of being yelled at. Thanks
2006-08-11 17:17:31 · 10 answers · asked by ????? 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
letting go is so hard!how do you have a child watch them grow,teach them love them and make all the sacrifices to be a good parent and then they grow up,and then what are you left with but a broken heart and a empty nest ,right?you always longed for a break when they were little but want them close when they got older.i can honestly say from being a parent you are put on an emotional roller coaster from the time you find out that you are pregnant .i guess we all did it to our parents too.just remember to tell your kids no matter how old they are that you love them,everyday and you are so lucky to have them,about the 20 year old yelling at you she will be asking for your advice and thinking you are the neatest thing again since sliced bread when she is 30.good luck
2006-08-11 17:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by happy-go-lucky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang, see if I even tried yelling at my mom she would totally knock my teeth out. But in answer to your question, I'd say kids don't see it has hard letting go the first time. I mean when they go off to college and or get their first new place, they realize that there is no mom or dad there to help them transition into this new life. Can't rely on them to pay your bills or get up and make you breakfast anymore. So I say its 50/50, no kid will honestly admit to it being hard for fear u'd keep them around longer and continue babying them and when they are trully out there on their own with out you they really do see how hard it can be, first hand.
2006-08-12 00:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they do not see it the way we do. All they can think of is themselves and what us as parents are going to do for them next.And they hopefully are getting ready to go to college and be on their on. You have to start setting yourself up for this change in about 10th grade. But after that they will realize what you as a parent have sacraficed for there well being. As for the yelling their is not any respect there and I would demand it or do less for you daughter. Children realize what parents have gone through aboout age 25-27.That's the age when I really understood my parents.Some children have a different view of this. They think that anything we do for them is owed to them and we are the ones that have to pay.
2006-08-12 00:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by J J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one of the hardest things you can do is to allow your child to grow up and let go of them. As for the yelling, I would simply tell her how much that hurts your feelings. My step-daughter yelled at me once. She came to realize that she had hurt me more than stabbing me would have. Once she figured out that she had done a terrible thing, she came back and appologized (2 days), all I had to do was tell her that she had hurt me and that hurt more than when I was shot.
Many times a child will explore their limits, and you will be the focus of their stretching their wings. They usually will grow up(if they live that long) and things will grow closer between the two of you.
Hope that helps.
2006-08-12 00:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by patbendrv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have raised 5 children. Yes it is hard letting go, but it to work itself out. There is a old saying that true, "a son is yours till he takes a wife, but a daughter is yours for the rest of your life".
2006-08-12 00:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joyce D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah........ I am on a new mission of not speaking my opinion unless asked.( super hard) Which pretty much means my son and I really don't converse anymore. LOL... As far as if letting go bothers the kids, I don't think they really ever let go of us.
2006-08-12 00:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by bellamonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no worry, its not your fault. its part of the sarrounding environment and the way she was raised up. there is an old sayings"what you sow , that you reap". what she was injected in the childhood she is expressing those now. very sad, how ungrateful the kids are to their parents. i never ever yell to my parents. they brought me to this wonderful world. how can i ?
2006-08-12 00:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22 and I miss those days...I think there is a point when we realize how nice it is to have your parents somewhat controlling you. (but maybe this is because I recently lost my father)
2006-08-12 00:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that! I still catch myself wanting to do everything for my kids. I guess we also just want to feel needed still.
2006-08-12 00:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i saw it as my parents being clingy and interfering. i understand differently now.
2006-08-12 00:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋